am I too nice?

Question

I started seeing a guy about a month ago. Lately I've noticed I do a lot for him (mostly without his asking) and I think it may be bothering him, as if i'm putting on a show or maybe hurting his pride.. I need thoughts on this.
some thing's that i've done/do. I always drive to see him, and never he to I, most of this is because I live with a roommate and he's alone, but its still a 30-45 min drive. I bought him a small gift on a whim, bought him some food a few times while we're out and he mentions he's a bit hungry, and the other night he had to buy meds for his brother so couldn't afford the date we were going on so I paid.. something he did tell me was weird for him, and made him feel a little guilty. I also baby sat his dog for him while his apt. was getting some maintence.

Should I stop doing so much for him? Not stop completely but enough so he doesn't think i'm trying to fool him? Any ideas anyone? I really am just the kind of person to go out of my way for others.

He always seems grateful, and more recently 'guilty' about it all. He said he feels as if he's forcing me to do nice things

I don't feel like he's taking advantage, since he never asks for the things. Like his pup, he had asked two friends first and then I offered - he was even hesitant about it because it's a puppy and he didn't want him to 'mess' my apt.

Answer 1

Don't give so much. Take a little more. There's nothing wrong with being nice, it's just that the reason he feels guilty might be because he has no intention of keeping you around.

It seems like he is using you. Don't be a doormat for anyone. Give and take would be a better arrangement than give, give, give.

Answer 2

It is nice to go out of your way but if he isn't apperciating it then I wouldnt do as many nice things.

Answer 3

I think its nice you go out of your way for people.
You sound nice.
I wish I had someone to do those things for me.
I think we need some more of you.