hey guys, i have a problem, can u help?i like this guy matt, he goes 2 my church and is really sweet. i also like a guy lewis, he goes 2 my skool. this past year, i have been flirting and hanging out with each. i only saw matt 2x's a week and i saw lewis 5x's a week. i think that they are bith right 4 me but i have some problems.1. lewis said he doesnt like me that way. but my friends have talked 2 his friends and his friends are like 95% sure that he does.2. matt lately hasnt been talking 2 me. not avoiding me, just not talking to me.3. lewis has been avoiding me ever since he told me. im afraid that next year, any classes we have 2gether will b really awkward, if i try and talk 2 him more.4. matt and i are in sunday skool 2 gether and we r the only 1's in our class so we have 2 talk but he seems reluctant.wut should i do?, should i tell them how i feel? should i leave it alone? help!
2006-08-07 07:45:09 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave the one in your school alone. If he's not for you then in school you will feel awkward running into him time to time. But if he is then waiting and not even giving it any thought it will come back to you. The one in church, the same thing. Take some time for yourself. You are better than that and you don't need to be begging anyone for love. You have the greatest love of all,
Gods love.
2006-08-07 07:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by EVEI 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop over thinking everything. Not everything these guys do or say or don't do or don't say has something to do with you.
Lewis has told you that he doesn't like you "that way." Just believe him. It takes a lot for a guy to come out and say that, which means that you are probably coming on pretty strong. He's probably avoiding you now because you are still asking all his friends if maybe he really does like you.
Matt probably seems reluctant for the same reason--you are looking at them both as potential matches for you--and that makes them uncomfortable. No, don't tell them how you feel. Instead back off a little and be a friend. If you stop looking at them as a possible match, they will feel less threatened by you. If you tell them how you feel, they will run further away--you're coming across as too needy.
Stop pursuing and start becoming. Become the kind of girl who attracts a quality guy--that is--kind, compassionate, friendly, positive, encouraging, honest, hard-working, etc. If you become someone worth their attention, you will capture it. It's really that simple.
2006-08-07 14:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd let it be....if Lewis wants to be your friend, great...every girl needs guys that are just friends. It just sounds like Lewis isn't ready for a relationship, or he doesn't want to mess up the good friendship that he has with you now by getting intimate. Matt on the other hand sounds like he either saw a new dish that he wants, or saw you with Lewis...Just let the boys be and continue doing what there doing, if they are interested they'll make their intentions known...
Good Luck
CJ
2006-08-07 14:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that Matt found out that you liked Lewis. If Lewis can't be truthful OR just doesn't like you forget about him and go for Matt. Matt might think that he is second so you have to deal with that. Find out why he is giving you the cold shoulder and then ask him out!
2006-08-07 14:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should not b 2 serious about anyone since u r obviously still young and not 2 certain even how 2 write w/o using this kind of internet slang or use a capital letter or a period instead play the field and enjoy the attention.
And don't get overly involved with anyone yet.
2006-08-07 14:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Thom Thumb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright, this matt guy seems like a good guy. you are in sunday school together. and i wouldnt trust other people to tell me how another person feels. only lewa knows how how he feels. i dont think you should waste your time on lewis if he isnt talking to you. i would stick with matt. sweet guys are always great boyfriends.
2006-08-07 14:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by valkyria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. That's a biggie. But I kinda agree with the person above me. School'c about to start and from experience I think that it would be much better to leave your options open. Trust me, you will see many more guys when school starts then you can make up your mind. Summer is only good for flings.
2006-08-07 14:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I had a church relationship in January-February. They don't work. This guy Nathan never called or IMed. I didn't care for him (I realized), b-cuz a guy named Chris always looked forward to seeing me at chruch and gave me hugs and stuff. Nathan got jealous. I told him me and Chris were just friends. He still was jealous and cheated. I kicked his a** and dumped him. Told you, they don't last cuz it's only two times a week. Even his bro showed more love for me then him and we were like brother and sister after I dumped him... Seth is crushing on me... he told me, but I knew it wouldn't work out, so I said no.
Sorry for carrying on past the subject,
Xiriah
2006-08-07 14:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Forgotten Poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe you should just play it cool and be friendly with them both-and maybe if you are looking for a steady relationship look around a little more for another friend!!! Really I wouldn't worry about it too much!!!
2006-08-07 14:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, find someone else. from your description, both seem to be avoiding you. trust me, it'll just click when you run into the right guy. be patient and stop looking. you tend to trip over surprises when you stop watching out for that special someone. there is such a thing as trying too hard. good luck!
2006-08-07 14:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by FairyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋