Actualy I jst want to know what Real Love means and why It hurt those that are very faithfull?

Question

Any body can answer me if you want to.

Answer 1

There was a time in my life when I became afraid to fall in love.
Because every time I fell in love, I got hurt.
I thought maybe that's why it's called falling in love.
I would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly.
It would be a truly emotional and euphoric experience.
I would be dreaming about the object of my affection day and night, imagining good times together, thinking of what I can do or buy for him to show how much I care.
I would feel light, energized and excited, blooming with the joy I feel inside.
Then somehow, something would go wrong and my whole world crash.

Disappointed, Resentment, Anger, Pain, Why?
Can we not love without feeling pain?
Is it really a price to pay for all the happiness we feel when we're in love?
It was only after many years of soul searching and reading inspirational writings that I realized that we could love without getting hurt.
Only recently did I understand what unconditional love is all about.

Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe.
It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being.
It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life.
If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be truly happy.

Accept the fact that other people express theirlove differently.
How do you express love?
You say "I love you three times a day".
You kiss and embrace as often as you can.
You never forget anniversaries.
You always prepare his favorite dishes.
How does he express love?
He rarely says, "I love you".
He seldom kisses you.
He forgets your birthday and he doesn't know how to cook.
But he works overtime, walks the dog, takes out the garbage,
takes you to the movies and calls you "Honey".
He probably loves you more than you can imagine.
He just shows it differently.
If you can accept that then you will have a healthier perspective of your relationship.

Derive happiness from giving love.
When you love, do it because you want to.
Just give it.
And cherish the satisfaction in having given someone something of yourself.
It's like giving a gift whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving.
Love without expecting anything in return.
Pain comes in when you demand something in return for the love you give.
You are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Love cannot always be reciprocal.
Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place.
No matter how much your partner loves you, he/she will never fill all your needs all the time.
And you will be waiting in misery forever, if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return.

Love now.
The past is gone and the future is justa dream.
All of yesterday's aches and pains, as well as the loves and laughter, are mere memories.
Let them go.
Fantasies and worries are for a future that may never come.
Don't dwell on them.
Live now.
Give love now. Do it and enjoy it now.
Throw away those destructive habits.
When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, you put yourself in a very tight spot.

Loving relationships are flexible- Dynamic and evolving.
Leave room now for a change interaction.
Allow for new behavior and learning experiences.
When we welcome these in our lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and affection and less frustration and pain.

Yes, you will say unconditional love is easier said than done.
Especially when we have always believed that love is give and take.
But believe that love is simply giving.
And you will be surprised that a lot of it, even more, actually comes back to you

Answer 2

Seems like some confusion between "real love" and "real dependance". Real love occurs when people enter a relationship that creates a new joyful world for both to exist and experience the world in a richer matter than each could alone. Pain may be experienced by both but it would be shared pain due to outside influences rather than the love itself. When one defines their identity through relationships of devotion to another there is frequently a misalignment of desires and expectations that will often result in pain. Most often the hurt person is projecting their feelings of love onto the other without ever really developing their independent and mutual identities.

Answer 3

real love... i think, is caring and "loving" someone SO MUCH that u want what is Best for that person... above your own happiness, their happiness is more important. that is why sometimes it does hurt.. if the person u love does not love u back. think of it this way:

if u love someone so much that their happiness is most important...and that person loves u back so much that your happiness is most important.... then what is missing?? nothing! u are completely, 100% take care of, No Matter What happens, anything negative in life, ur love and committment will keep u together, and make u stronger!

u can't force someone to love u...but u can love someone as much as u can. that is why it is imperative that u set boundaries for ur partner and the relationship, until u filter out the bad ones or the ones "not good enough", and Find someone who can commit and love at the same capacity and level as you!!! then u will be completely fulfilled, and trust that person w/ ur whole heart and mind and soul because that person is trustworthy. that person is in control of ur heart, but they hold it dear and take care of u cuz they love you too!!! don't settle for anything less than what u need and want.... just make sure that u are a person who is willing and able to love, commit, be a wonderful girlfriend or boyfriend. that way u will know what u deserve, and not settle for someone who is not good enough. u will wait for someone who u deserve, and someone who deserves you~

Answer 4

Real love means that both of you are so in love that you will do anything for each other and support each other in everything. However, I think that trues love is temporary so enjoy it while it lasts. Sooner or later, that person you are so in love with will cheat because that is how men are. If they meet someone who is willing to do IT at that point, they will cheat. Even if they have a devoted girfriend. That is their nature. Doesn't mean you should give up though. Find another temporary true love!!!

Answer 5

'Real Love' is a song by The Beatles, but the feeling/condition 'Love' is often confused with 'Lust'/'Addiction'/'Greed' etc.

Love is unconditional, for everything you give you expect nothing in return.
If you are faithful and have been hurt (emotionally) then maybe you had expectations that were not met- & there for it was not 'Love' but more of a relationship based on expectations, terms and conditions and unfortunatly for you, the other party did not mutually agree to the binding and you felt hurt.

Answer 6

when u love some1 so much it sucks when u cant be with them all the time. real love means to be potentially blind and totally wrapped up in that other person. itll only hurt the faithful ones when their significant other is not faithfull to them.

Answer 7

Real love can have many explanations. One is loving someone without any conditions. Respect, Loyalty, Honesty. There are also many different people in this word--Some are fauthful, and some are not.If someone is hurting you by being unfaithful, there are many others who would be happy to take their place. Stay Strong.

Answer 8

sweetie love comes disguised as many things. the most important love is to love yourself. its taken me many years to realise this . i love myself the most. only you can do that because you kno yourself inside out no one else ever will. you will realise tho that when you do love yourself first the rest of the world will love you. that doesnt mean you are to be self absorbed or conceited or selfish. and vain about yourself. honestly love yourself and the love you deserve will come to you. you will be a strong person. im sure you have been hurt in love, but dont give up on it, somwhere out there is the right person for you.

Answer 9

real love means that you genuinely care for somebody with all your heart and you just like them for who they are, simple. It would hurt those that are faithful so much because they know they have been honest in the relationship and it hurts them that they have been cheated on/rejected.

Answer 10

I think real love mean that you genuinely love somebody unconditionally.Love it hurts those that are faithful because you put so much trust into another person you are blind to see that they are taking advantage of you and breaking your heart.