You take a break for about 3 months.Make them work for your attention,and your committment.You dont deserve that from any male,and let others see how you have changed.
2006-08-07 07:39:44
·
answer #1
·
answered by Sherry H 4
·
0⤊
0⤋
Make school a priority and you will not get heart broken... boys are just that; BOYS! If you want a real relationship...wait until you are mature enough to know that bad boys are a waste of time (as cute as they may seem) and that there are real young men out there that will treat you with respect and loyalty. you obvioulsy have a lot to learn about the subject if you continue to make the same mistakes but that fact that you realize the pattern is a good step in the direction to make a positive change.
Signs that you have met a good guy:
-He treats you like a your best friend would (or should).
-He calls when he says he will, and does what he says he will.
-He is there when you need him.
-He is not afraid to get close emotionally.
-He RESPECTS you and your body and never pushes to have sex or anything you are not ready for and is willing to wait for you.
-He enjoys your company and looks foward to hanging out with you but at the same time respects you time with your friends.
ther are many more good things a good guy will have and bad boy will not. a boy will have none of these characteristics. Do not settle for anything less than you would treat your partner!
2006-08-07 08:09:55
·
answer #2
·
answered by Meliskell 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
You're right, you need to quit dating the "bad boys." Just look at everything they do and how stupid they look when they're trying to be "hard." You need to wait until you're older. I am 18 and I had several boys cheat on me too. Unfortunately you will find your most faithful guys in your Junior year. Senior year every guy is just trying to get some, and freshmen year of college the boys are still in that phase. I found my boyfriend after being cheated on probably a dozen times. I then realized, I was looking for the wrong thing. I was looking for a guy who was cute, popular and all that jazz. Once I moved out of my own little clique I found that there are great guys out there!
I dated one for 3 months, and he never cheated on me. In fact, I dumped him. Now I'm dating my wonderful boyfriend and have never been so happy. He is everything I want. It's not that he is ugly or a loser. It's just that I had to make sure I liked their personality before I dated them. Before I was only concerned with the hottest coolest guy out there. And when it all worked out, I ended up with Bob. He is wonderful. He is very very good looking, intelligent, sweet and best of all, he knows how to treat me right. He knows how to make me feel special and he does an awesome job of it. Even if it is just an email from work saying hey, he makes me feel amazing. Like he is thinking about me all the time.
If you figure out what you want, personality wise, and look for that, you'll have much more success. Look at all the characteristics you want in a guy, and you'll see those guys didn't have them.
2006-08-07 07:47:42
·
answer #3
·
answered by Modern_Monroe 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
At this point if I were you, I'd take a break from the bf/gf thing and concentrate on friends, school, hobbies.
With the kind of experiences you've been through, I would think that maybe you are worrying too much about the social. Why do you need a bf right now? It's ok not to have one!!
Put some time/energy into other parts of your life, including your family. In a couple of years, you may be going away to college and might have wished you'd spent less time on "you" and more on others.
2006-08-07 07:41:48
·
answer #4
·
answered by 60s Chick 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
Use your brain instead of your passion. Sit down and make a list of the qualities you would want in a "keeper." When you start liking a guy, take a look at whether or not he's worth liking.
When I was in high school, there was this "bad boy" that I was really attracted to. He was soooo hot, and all the girls liked him. When he started flirting with me, I couldn't believe it. But then I let my brain take over. Yes, he was cute and had a really great car, but he liked to drink and party a lot. I've never liked hanging out with guys who drink and party a lot--they do stupid things and act like jerks, so when he asked me out, I didn't go. Was that hard? Yes! He was sooo hot! Do I regret not going out with him now? No! I held out for a really great guy who shares my values and perspective, and he is the BEST! (And he is soooo hot!)
Decide what kind of guy you want. Work to become the kind of girl who would attract a quality guy. Then don't settle for less than you deserve.
2006-08-07 07:47:09
·
answer #5
·
answered by happygirl 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
I want you to go out and buy a book called "The Rules" then follow the directions for getting Mr. Right to fall in love with you.
I did this and ended up marrying my crush.
We're very happy and have two children now.
Prior to reading this book and following "The Rules" I also made all the mistakes and chose all the wrong guys. When I first saw my husband what attracted me to him was his looks. I thought my heart might beat out of my chest. If you buy the book and start reading "The Rules" you will totally think I'm nuts. It's very old fashioned but try to believe me. Guys want to chase you, they don't want to be chased. Guys are crazy about what they can't have. I know this sounds like a game but "hey, if you win Mr. Right" isn't it a win-win situation?
Try doing something you've probably never, ever tried or even considered. Be an old fashioned girl with high expectations. You'll be surprized and pleased, I promise.
2006-08-07 07:42:54
·
answer #6
·
answered by veronicazombie 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
ok.. u can't control a guy. *but* u can make your boundaries and expecations known. first, work on urself. are u a good girlfriend? do u treat ur man right? are u fair, are u caring, are u loving, and committed?? ok, when u are confident that u are great person and great girlfriend, ur part is done. now u have to let ur boyfriend know what u expect from urself, from him, and from the relationship. set ur boundaries, know what u want in ur man. if he treats u bad in any way, makes u feel bad about urself, does things that makes u not trust him, nip it in the bud right there and then. u have to know that the guy is willing and able to put in just as much care and work as u are. if he shows u anything that is opposite of ur expecations, let him know, give him a chance to fix it, but if he doesn't, he's OUT. u need to pay attention to indicators that cause lack of trust.....work on the relationship. if u trust that he will do all he can to fix the problems, that is a positive indicator. if he ignores u, or cheats, or lies, and u catch him, it's a negative indicator. if u keep ur standards high, u will filter out the losers and find a winner!! if it takes time, so be it; the best guy for u SHOULDN'T be easy to find, cuz he's so special! just continue to work on urself, ur appearance, ur mind, ur studies, ur relationships w/ friends and family. be a positive happy, well rounded person, and u'll be a wonderful girlfriend for ANY GUY...but if u have confidence in urself, u will wait until u find the *right* guy who can appreciate u and make u feel better and happier each day. it is worth it to wait for that.
2006-08-07 07:42:42
·
answer #7
·
answered by sasmallworld 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
Gosh, you are only 16 and have had 4 boyfriends? My first boyfriend, and I have been with him for a year and a half, came into my life when I was 19. Focus on school now and don't just go for any guys you meet. Wait until you are older and you will meet that someone who will respect you and love you. You cannot find that at the age of 16 though. Good luck!
2006-08-07 07:42:17
·
answer #8
·
answered by italian_princess 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
Maybe ALL the BOYS you are dating are telling their friends that you are easy. So stop looking for love & worry about your schooling!!! If you need to date get to know the person and what they are about, did they cheat on past girls? You need to choose the guys you date more carefully. Get out of the same cycle & group of people. You have so much time to date just slow it down you're only 16. Be smart because trust me this will not be the last time.
2006-08-07 07:46:23
·
answer #9
·
answered by Hope I can Help 1
·
0⤊
0⤋
First off your 16 and I assume your BF are close to same age. Neither you nor your BF's understand commitment yet even though you may think you do. Your learning and still self absorbed that's normal. Second relax your not going to find your soul mate at 16!! Third and lastly is look within your self why are these boys cheating what reason have you gave them? Did you push them towards it? Were you a jealous GF? Are you picking "Badboys"? Too many questions! I would not worry your too young for that
2006-08-07 07:41:49
·
answer #10
·
answered by ? 5
·
0⤊
0⤋
TOP 5 Reasons not to be a dumb b*tch (aka the Bad Boys Girl)
#1 Bad boys go to Community College...still seem cool
#2 They live with their parents
#3 If not with their parents then on Welfare
#4 Ussually are calleed BAD because what repectable person would be caught with them
#5 In 10 years dumb isn't cute any more, only money and love, and if you"love" a bad boy I can guarantee that its not mutual.
2006-08-07 07:41:11
·
answer #11
·
answered by J from O 4
·
0⤊
0⤋