I feel fine now only 11 days after giving birth. Would it be that bad if we have sex before my 6 week check up? What would it really hurt? Besides possibly me?
2006-08-07 07:29:57 · 25 answers · asked by Ashley D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I JUST HAD A BABY JUNE 30TH AND MY HUSBAND CAME BACK FROM IRAQ JULY 6TH AND WE TRIED AND IT HURT REALLY BAD BUT BY THE 2ND WEEK IT DIDNT HURT...TAKE IT NICE AND SLOW..I TORE WITH MY SON SO WE HAD TO BE REALLY CAREFUL...
2006-08-10 07:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 6 week mark is meant to give women a chance to heal up and repair and damge. If you had a vaginal delivery and hd no tears or rips then you may be able to perform intercourse sooner but you should be aware that it can hurt a great deal if you are not fully recovered. There most likely will not be any long term negative effects of this though. You are at a slightly higher risk for infection at that time though so you should also both make sure you are very clean before having sex as well. If you feel ready give it a try but go slowly to test if there is any pain and how intense it is.
2006-08-07 14:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra581 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They tell you 6 weeks for your health. At this point, you should have had your postpartum check-up and your doctor can see how you are healing (particularly if you had an episiotomy). However, if you really feel like you are ready before your 6 weeks are over, there are some things you should make sure to do:
Start slowly. Tell your partner what pleases you and what is uncomfortable.
Use a lubricant for vaginal dryness, if you need to.
Try different positions that will make it more comfortable for you. Sometimes a woman may have more control if she is on her side or kneeling over her partner.
Prevent leaking milk by wearing a bra during sex.
Don't ignore persistent pain. If you have pain that prevents intercourse, lasts throughout intercourse, or doesn't slowly improve over weeks, you should discuss it with your doctor and stop having until you see your doctor so that you do not damage anything.
Hope that helped, good luck!!
2006-08-07 14:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by katie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples do have intercourse within days or weeks after childborth, and I actually know more than a few women who became pregnant this way! Some people say that breast-feeding prevents pregnancy, but this is not reliable at all. MD's tell you not to have intercourse to give your body time to recover from the changes of childbirth, and (in my opinion) to allow other body processes to 'normalize'; such as digestion, elimination, etc. For women who had an episiotomy (stitches in the perineal area) the body needs time to completely heal the skin and underlying tendons to maintain muscle strength. It is possible that no one would would be 'hurt', including you, but it might be a good idea to let your MD know that you do not want to wait, and ask for any information you need when you go ahead.
2006-08-07 14:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not realize it now, but nothing is really yet healed inside. You could do some damage and cause scar tissue that later on could need surgery. Also, there are likely stitches that would be affected. If they are vaginal, you will rip them open and that would definitely not be good. If they are from a Cesarean, you could rip them from the activity and that also would not be good. Be patient - patience is a virtue. 6 weeks is not that far away. You are 1/3 done already. Don't rush it. If he really has to be 'relieved' tell him to take care of it himself or you can think of other ways besides intercourse. We waited and it did not kill us both times (2 babies). Also, use protection when you do have sex, as you can get pregnant quite easily. My brother-in-law's sister did 9 times each time they could again have sex, and did have sex before they were supposed to during one of the later kids - she had scar tissue where the stitches ripped out, and had to have things fixed later on because of it as she developed problems from it down the road. Best wishes.
2006-08-07 14:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could cause infection if your cervix isn't all the way closed. And if you had any stitches that could be painful.
AND, it would not be healthy for you to get pregnant again so soon, which is another reason for the ban.
Also, you are supposed to have a doctors appt at 6 weeks, and that is when the doctor will give you the ok.
Congrats on your baby, and hope this helped!
2006-08-07 16:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be highly unlikely for you to get pregnant that early after having a baby, your body has not healed and you still have not shed what you did not lose after having him/her so don't worry about that. What you DO need to worry about is this...a woman's body does not completely heal for a full YEAR after having a baby...and your uterus and cervix have been put through SO MUCH the past YEAR that I would really not do it. Some people say the first time after having a baby is like THE first time all over again..I would say mine wasn't that bad, but it wasn't completely fun either.
2006-08-07 18:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by PerfeclyImperfect 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the six weeks is not written in stone. If you are still bleeding, and sometimes even after, it means that the uterus has not fully closed yet and having sex, or introducing any foreign object can cause infection. They tell you six weeks not because of the time but because that is when your appointment is and your doc can tell you if it is ok. Some people have to wait longer. My hubby and I had oral sex until I felt ready for vaginal (six weeks in my case)
2006-08-07 15:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by ushabug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for another week or so. Who is the impatient one?
Him, then let him, give birth next time. Right now everything is like an open wound and you could get an infection.
And thats not pleasant. So try patience and pleasuring each other without peneration.
2006-08-07 14:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow what the doctor says and wait till your 6 week check up to make sure everything is okay with you. Then after that you can do what you want.
2006-08-07 14:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Hillary H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They told me that and I waited 5 weeks and it hurt bad.I was scared everytime my husband brought it up.It hurt me for about 2 weeks but it eventually started to feel fine again.With my second baby I waited three weeks and It hurt less.I think my biggest worry was ripping my stiches with my first,but I had less with my second child.
My friend waited 4 days and it didnt hurt her any,but she got pregnant.
My advice is wait till you cant any longer at least 2 weeks if you have stiches.Then try it.Im sure you can wait 3 more days.lol
2006-08-07 14:55:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋