I am not pregnant yet, but my mother seems to have issues with becoming a grandma since she feels too young.
She will be about 47 when we have our baby.
My husband and I plan to conceive soon and this will be the first grandbaby in all my family.
My dad seems happy when we talk about having children, but my mom makes faces like she doesn’t want me to become pregnant.
How should we tell my parents that we are expecting our first child when my mom isn’t happy about it?
Should we just tell them or should we tell them by doing something cute (picture frame, bib, etc.)?
2006-08-07 07:25:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can relate to your mother's trepidations of being a young grandparent because I am slightly younger, but in the same age range as she is. But, all things considered, this is your time now...both you and your husband's. The decision on when to conceive is yours alone. Your mom says these things now ( just as my mother did) but when the time actually arrives, watch the miraculous metamorphasis that occurs! She will be thrilled and supportive, and she'll be so helpful she'll practically get in the way! This is the way of life. When you tell her is largely up to you, but whenever that is, everything will be just fine. Good luck in your future endeavors.
2006-08-07 08:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that since she's not on-board with becoming a grandma you should do something very creative to show her that having a grandchild is not a sign of getting older. You should also talk to her about why she's not gung-ho on the idea and see if there is anything that should be talked about before hand. Most importantly let her know that you want her to love and welcome your new baby into the family and do not want haste and animosity to cloud the relationship of grandma and grandchild.
Also, by changing the word of "Grandma" to Nana or another term, may help her overcome the anxiety of it all.
Good luck! :)
2006-08-07 07:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by kristinaanneblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you become pregnant, just tell people! That is great news. You dont have to try to come up with something fancy for your mother, especially since she is not wanting this for you.
Having a baby is a blessing from the Lord and when you finally become pregnant, tell your mother and let her deal with it, however she wants to. (it sounds like she has some other issues going on, deeper than becoming a grandmother)
2006-08-07 07:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, my mom was only 42 when we had our first baby and she used to do the samething. She even told me that she isn't to be called Grandma or anything like that ,so she came up with her own name for the kids to call her and I HATE it, but she likes it and we all deal with it, the kids are used to calling her "Gam". But if your mom still can't get over the fact that SHE is getting older then SHE will just have to deal with it, you can't honestly put YOUR life on hold because of HER insecurities . And believe me once you start showing she will melt like butter. My mom is now 50 and has 2 grandchildren and is awesome with them.
2006-08-11 03:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by aset 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom isn't ready to admit that she is getting older. My mom was about the age that your mom is going to be when we told her and my dad. I told my mom over the phone. My dad and his fiancee were told when we took them out to dinner. I believe it was mentioned between the main course and dessert. Don't worry your mom will be just fine. Just make sure you are not looking at your mother when you make the announcement.
2006-08-07 07:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom she doesn't have to be a grandmother, she can be a Nana, which is what I am. I am 46 and have a 7 year old granddaughter and another grandchild on the way. It doesn't make you feel old, tell her, it makes you IMMORTAL!!!! It is the best life has to offer. You can spoil them and rock them and kiss them and send them home.
2006-08-07 07:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 09:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she kidding? 47? By age 47 my mom had like 11 grandkids?
If she goes on this way then you won't have kids till your 50.
2006-08-07 08:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by bella_mexicana_rellena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well telling your mother is going to be hard for you but just straight forward
2006-08-07 07:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋