if you get involved with somebody + they start turning up uninvited, how do u establish boundaries?

Answer 1

you set rules and if they violate them have the police to remove them from your property

Answer 2

Tell them that you don't like them turning up uninvited and that if you see too much of each other you may stop liking him.

A good one to get the point across is to answer the door but not let him in. Just say "I really don't appreciate you just turning up like this -it's really bad manners, goodbye". Then close he door and don't answer it again. He will understand - in fact I bet he understands good enough already but knows he can get away with it 'cos you don't do anything. It's making me angry just thinking about it and I'm a guy!

Alternatively, end the relationship and get the hell out!

Answer 3

Next time the person in question turns up uninvited tell them you are just going out and that they should have phoned ahead because they have had a wasted journey, then they might learn in future, if they dont then i'm not sure what else i'd do!
Good luck.

Answer 4

It's difficult , but you have to establish the fact that you both need your space, A phone call might be a good idea !

Answer 5

If they turn up uninvited and you don't want to see them, just tell them to go away.

Answer 6

make it clear when they turn up that you're busy, if you're at home, or wanted a night out with your friends, if you're out. Tell them a specific time when you'll see them alone. there's no need to be rude, just say "i'm in the middle of something now / out with my friends, maybe we could get together on friday"

Answer 7

. . . if you've got some idea of when he's gonna turn up - get another male friend to open the door to him, ideally wearing no clothes (okay, let's get real - maybe his socks, or if he's shy then perhaps a towel wrapped round his waist [hand towel]) - if you're stuck for friends, I've got my own socks and hand towel . . .

Answer 8

strait talking always does it for me,if they are going to follow you round like a lost sheep, then theres something wrong.Every person needs their privacy, time out what ever you want to call it.
Its respecting our privacy thats makes us better people.Some times you may be hurting and just want to be alone to sort your head out, and man cant think strait with an empty tummy either
NURSE CLOSE THE SCREENS PLEASE !! . Hope this helps.
Terry.

Answer 9

Its really hard but just be truthful with them ,either that or just ask if they would not mind ringing before them come over in future incase you are going out ,are tired or just busy.

Answer 10

say babes you gotta let me know when you coming... spo i know to light the candles etc. make it sound like a good thing coz u dont want them fronting like what you seein some1 else?