Dear women, wats the best way 2 show or tell a woman that i just cant afford to pay the bill every single time

Question

Dear women, this girl calls me out to dinner almost everyday but I keep on saying I cant because I always end up paying the bill every single time and its getting unaffordable. how’s the best way to tell her off? Please advice.

Answer 1

Be honest and polite. Do you not want to go with her at all? If so, just keep saying no, I have another commitment tonight. She'll get the idea after a few times. If you want to go, but just don't want to get stuck with the bill, tell her when she asks you that you'd like to go, as long as you each pay for your own meal. You can't beat simple honesty, tempered with kindness.

Answer 2

Begin to tell her, get to the point, and then stop. The ball's in her court then, and if she chooses not to go dutch or pay herself once in a while, then you have to say you can't afford her either.

I just noticed the "Dear women" at the beginning of this question, but I hope a man's perspective helps too. Not everything you do with this girl has to cost money -- try a walk in the park, a drive in the country, or something you can do together that you both enjoy. Have a great day, and I hope this helps!

Answer 3

Well, this is a 2 part question.
Do you want to see her anymore or do you want to tell her off?
Is your only gripe that you foot the bill all the time and you don't sh*t money? Or is there anything else about her that you don't like?
If you are REALLY into this girl and its only the $$$. Than all you have to do is straight up tell her "Hey, I really want to hang out but honestly I'm down in the dumps with money right now and I can't keep paying for these dates." See her reaction. She can at this point offer to pay or stop hanging out. OR suggest something cheap and easy. If she decides if you won't pay she won't hang out or ends up b*tching the whole time you're doing something cheap and easy than you don't want to have her in your life anyway. But if you really like her, don't just avoid the dates because she'll just take it as you're not interested. If it is more than just money than just tell her off like you would any other situation- stop returning her calls, tell her you don't want to hang out anymore, etc. Easy.
DON'T be cheesy and go out and wait till the bill comes and say "can we go dutch this time?" cuz she might not be prepared for it. Theres alot of things you can do without spending a ton of money. Just hang out- go to a park. Go on a hike. Go to the beach. Go to a matinee movie. Just wrestle around your living room and chat. Watch a DVD.

Answer 4

Tell her you can't.

If she is a keeper, she will understand. She may even invite you for a treat.

If she is a golddigger, she will give you a tantrum or just dissapear.

I don't understand your hesitation. You are not obliged to be anybodie's food service, you know?

You have allowed this person to use you for a free meal. That's something you should reserve only for that special someone that has been with you in good AND BAD TIMES, someone who also gives you the same.

Use your head and tell her that you can't afford going out so much. See what she says, and wait. You will know what type of girl she really is real soon.

Then, you will know everything you need to know to make your decision about her.

Let it be a lesson for the next girl you date!!! Good luck.

Answer 5

yes, be honest. i was JUST thinking about this earlier..haha. the problem between men and women sometimes is just communication and gender roles. men WANT to be the breadwinner, they WANT to be able to pay for everything and do all for the lady.. however, at different times of their life, they may not be Able to pay for all these extravagant things. it doens't meant u don't want to spend time with ur woman, but it means u Can't due to ur means. but guys usually feel embarrassed cuz they can't "pay the bills" so to speak, and instead of being honest and trying to find out a solution *togehter* w/ ur woman, u end up saying "i can't go out tonight. i'm busy...i have other things to do" and that makes a woman feel sad...like the guy's not interested anymore, and they start thinking "what did i do wrong??" so what u need to do is talk to her.. tell her u love spending time w/ her, but u have to start thinking of some things to do that spend less money because u can't afford it at this time. that way sh'ell know u still want to spend time w/ her. if she offers to pay sometimes, great..but if u don't feel comfortable, tell her "no, i want to be the man, i don't want to take ur money"....... it's up to you. but if the girl really likes u , she won't mind paying and will let u pay later when u DO have the money. as long as u respect each other and don't take advantage of each other, things will work out right.

Answer 6

You don't need to tell her off because you don't have the nerve to speak up. When the bill comes you should get out your amount of the lunch and wait for her to notice that you are not going to be paying hers. Or when she asks you to lunch instead of just saying I cant. How about being blunt, this is really getting to expensive for me, if you are going to be paying for yourself then sure I can go. Yes her feelings might get hurt but if you feel she using you what do you care?

Answer 7

Just tell her in a polite manner that, even though you enjoy going to dinner with her, you can't afford to do it every day. She's taking advantage of the situation. If she stops calling you all together, that means she was only after a free meal!

Answer 8

She's the one calling you out and you're the one paying??? She's a gold digger! Just tell her you can't afford no more to go eat out everyday. At the same time, you'll know if she's after you just for your money. I would tend to say to find someone else to date.

Answer 9

The easiest way is to just TELL HER. I'm sure she'll understand, and most likely respect you for it. Instead of slacking her off everytime by telling her you cant come out for dinner, just simple TELL her that you are low on cash at the moment. Chances are she'll offer to pay instead :)

Just be polite and honest :)

Xxjes

Answer 10

Next time she calls, tell her that you enjoy having dinner with her but it's becoming too costly for you.If she enjoys your company just the same she will offer to pay if she was just using you as a meal ticket don't expect her to be calling you anytime soon.