I know that some kids might not have much money. Is it okay to ask them not to bring gifts? Should I not say anything and let them bring gifts if they want. We are very accepting of other people's generosity but do not want to make kids feel obligated.
2006-08-07 07:04:42 · 20 answers · asked by Cas 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Another way to go is to ask kids each to bring a gently used book to trade. Ask them to wrap it and let the kids each choose one to take home.. This lets all the kids get something, and nobody has to spend a lot of money. Also, you 9-yr-old gets more than enough gifts from you and grandparents right, so why get a bunch more gifts........These people who are worried about your child getting gifts obviously don't have children, or are children, or they have a maid that cleans the mess of toys up in the kids room everyday. :)
2006-08-07 07:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Midwestern Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The parents of the kids will usually buy the gifts for your daughter at this age. When I was 9, I didn't have the money to buy my friends gifts. So I just made them a card.
Usually it is something small. It could range from a card, a bag of candy, ect. That is how it was when I was younger. Some of my friends brought small gifts ( well under 5 bucks), others brought just a card they drew up.
You might say, "you don't need to bring any gifts". Most people will bring something whether you say yes or no though.
If I were you I probably wouldn't say anything at all. Most parents won't spend a whole lot on someone else's kid unless they are very close to the parents and the child.
2006-08-07 07:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by thunderbomb90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell them . A 9 yr old should be contented with gifts from their own parents and the company of their guests whose presence should be enough to make their birthday party a happy one. However, if some of them insist on bringing gifts, it will make those who didn't bring any feel left out or embarrassed. So it is quite a tricky situation. Maybe you can state in your invitation card that a personally handmade card would be very welcome and absolutely no gifts should be given at all. If there are some kids whose parents are wealthy enough and want to show off that they can afford a gift and insist on giving the gift, it is best to accept the gift with thanks and immediately put it away to avoid embarrassing those who didn't bring any gifts. Do not open the gifts until after everyone has left the party. It is a good way to teach your kids that throwing a party is about giving your guests and you a good time by enjoying each others' company and NOT about the GIFTS at all.
2006-08-07 22:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't say such a thing. Those kids have parents who I am sure can afford $20 on a gift for a 9 yr old kid. It's common knowledge that when you go to a b-day party, you take a gift. If they can't afford it, they stop by just to congratulate the kid and then say they are leaving. At that point then YOU insist that they stay, so they don't feel bad for not bringing a present but their kid can still enjoy the party.
2006-08-07 09:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we should anticipate anybody's move. If they want to bring gifts, let them.some people give gifts as a token of their love or appreciation for another person. It is one way of showing that person cares.If we tell them not to bring gifts, they might be offended. Perhaps, you can make it more unique by asking your child to give gifts instead of receiving, or if you like, you can inform them that the gifts they will give will be shared to the less fortunate children, so that they will not be pressured in choosing expensive gifts. Perhaps, you can even hold your child's birthday party in an orphanage. These are kids who can not really give gifts, and would be very pleased to celebrate with your child. Happy Birthday! God bless you for your kind heart!
2006-08-07 07:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by mad scientist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey let the 9 yr old enjoy some gifts being showered on her ! Maybe u can tell everyone not to bring expensive gifts...
2006-08-07 23:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Nisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put on the invitation gifts optional. But also realize that you daughter will get disapointed over the fact that she's not getting as many gifts. Read the attached article though, before you think about denying your daughter her birthday gifts.
2006-08-07 08:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by pixipaperdollfairee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't say anything to make them think otherwise, an invitation usually carry the obligation of a gift
2006-08-07 07:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by combat_chuck_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've been to many parties where the host asked that there be no gifts exchanged and other parties where the host said no gifts above $10.00 etc...
So yes...it's okay. Also some hosts say gifts are optional.
2006-08-07 09:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put on the invitations, gifts optional, because all gifts will be donated in my daughters name (for her birthday) to homeless/hospitalized children.
(just talk this over with your daughter and let her deliver the gifts to these children). That would make her day more special than you know, if she sees children with nothing. But of course, please get her something yourself!! :)
2006-08-07 07:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋