I have a friend and she wants to have a family. She's giving me the baby test. To see how good of a husband and a father i would be. anyway shes now going thru a divorce and well i know she wants children but tell me, i've been last or almost last to every thing i can think of. now i want to go to school get a career started and what not. im not as stupid as you might think. i do have my limits. and i want children but now isn't the time. if there is a possibilty of children and marriage, well i guess its good to know know. so if anyone can help me pass this test. i would be very grateful. i just have so many things i want to do. and what not. so if you could help it would be appreciated
2006-08-07 07:03:43 · 7 answers · asked by Sun And Sky 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to tell her. If you decide to marry her and have a family before you do the things in life you really want to do it will only make you resent her later.
2006-08-07 07:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sorta in your position a few years ago. I had a live-in-girlfriend who wanted to know when we were getting married and going to have a family. Well, I was just out of school a few years and this just wasn't my plan. I wanted marriage, I wanted children, and I thought I wanted to do it with her, but not that soon. I had a plan. I wanted to further my career, get up that ladder a little quicker so that when I was ready I could really support a wife and family properly. I had to let it go. It was tough and got alittle nasty, but I had to do it.
Years later, it was the best thing I've ever done. I was able to progress through the ranks and really concrete myself in my position. I started making some really good money and bought my own house. I had made it. Not long after that I met a woman who knocked me off my feet. We also have 2 wonderful children. Things are excellent and I attribute it to doing the right things.
Work hard, keep your eye on the future, make a good life for yourself, and then share it with the right woman. It might be this woman, it might not. If it is she should understand what your trying to do. She should understand that you do not want to struggle and eek your way through life. You want to make something for the both of you and your future life. It should be worth waiting for. If not, gotta let it go. It wasn't ment to be.
Good Luck
2006-08-07 15:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for you, go to school and do the things you want to do before you start a family. It will be harder for you to do what you want to do with a family. This is your life not hers. Don't you think you can be a better parent if you have a baby when the time is right for you?
2006-08-08 23:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by hrfryman2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do your future children a favor and fail this one test on purpose. You are not ready for them right now.
2006-08-07 14:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
passing the "good father" test...
be responsible, caring, and honest. dont do anything that would make her think youre too immature (spend your paycheck on drugs, etc). and if you guys have been together for a while, i dont think she would waste her time on someone she knew wouldnt be a good choice for her children in the future. good luck.
2006-08-07 14:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by *~* tErrA *~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what u just told us. Parent test lol, what next
2006-08-07 14:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by keke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what is necessary for you - wether it is to go to school, start a career, or anything. If you are not ready to have kids then DON"T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-07 14:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋