It's like he is trying to run away ..I am his first real relationship in 5 years and he is continuously testing me, then I am always the one to apologize for everything in order to fix the problem. I think I may be in love with him and I see potential but we're both so stubborn and scared that I am not sure how I can handle this. Any ideas?
2006-08-07 07:01:50 · 53 answers · asked by beautifully broken 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he is scared to commit, so give him time and space, he will eventually make up his mind and decide if he is ready to be in a relationship or not.. usually when someone looks for reasons to break up that means that they are uncomfortable in the relationship.... or you could always ask him about it, no better answer could come from anyone but him!
2006-08-07 07:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by friendly mexican 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're apologizing for everything in order to "fix" the problem? Sounds as though he is VERY IMMATURE and isn't capable of handling a relationship. STOP apologizing for things that are NOT yours to aplogize about. Make him take responsibility for his own self. The more you aplogize and give in to him, the less he will respect you and the more he'll take advantage of you. You'll no longer be attractive to him..... He'll truly see you as "weak" and that's not an attractive feature in anyone.
Set his *** out on the curb and let him know that you have no intentions of being in a relationship with someone who is incapable of accepting self responsibility.
Lock the doors, turn your music on, run a bubble bath, light some candles and pamper yourself.
YOU MAKE THE CHOICE NOT TO ACCEPT such ignorance.
Too many good men out there that appreciate what a relationship is all about.... Two people CHOOSING to respect, love and care about the other.
2006-08-07 07:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would do something like this: think about if the things he is getting mad about is reasonable... really... like if the situations were flipped you might get upset as well. and think about if he might be so scared because he has been cheated on himself, and now he still might feel scared even though he is with you. if that is the case then all you can do and assure him that you're there becuase you want to be and keep telling him that he should trust you. it's good that you're one that can just say sorry in order to fix everything, but in the end you could be the one that gets fed up by it. im going through the same problem with my bf at the moment too. communication is the key. just tell him wassup.. and if he can't help the relationship the way you're willing to them it's going to be hard to stay together.
2006-08-07 07:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can make this work at this point. If you stay in this relationship, you will probably go through this same thing over and over again. It seems he needs to grow up.
I suggest you take a step back from him and look at him objectively. What are all his best qualities? Are they enough even if he keeps playing these games forever? It might help if you stop dating him for a while. It could be that then you will see him more clearly and perhaps he'll know more of what he wants too.
2006-08-07 07:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to let each other go...if he's looking for ways to break up with you, don't you think that's a sign? Maybe you should talk to him about it, seems like you care alot for him, but remember it takes two (2) to have a successful relationship, and if one wants out then there's nothing more you can do but move on with life. I'm sure you'll find someone better out their...good luck hun...
2006-08-07 07:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but I'd give him a good reason to break up with me. I wouldn't be there.
Sriously, do you really believe that his behavior will improve? Or, that you'll learn to LIKE what he's doing? Handle it by saying, "I like you very much but your constant testing, and running away, and fear of commitment (if that's what it is) is more than I can handle. It is hurting my feelings for you. If it doesn't stop, I don't want to continue with you and I won't."
2006-08-07 07:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a test. To be honest, if you sense he is trying to run away HE IS! and if you have to apologize and he is picking fights YES he wants OUT. You are holding on to something that is "not right". Let go already and make room for the right one to come your way. Read Iyanla Vyzant book. Little red one. EXCELLENT. after reading her book you will dump him. Her book is exceptional! Really makes you think about the dilemna and how to solve it.
2006-08-07 07:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit his stubborn a** down and talk to him about it! Explain everything to him. Try not to be too emotional about it. Be real and sincere. He'll appreciate your honesty and maybe you'll get some information on his behavior too.
Normally I'd say drop him, but if you see potential, do what it takes to either develop it or find out if its not going to work.
Good luck!
2006-08-07 07:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by vegasorbust1026 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to test him. Take off and do your own thing for a few days. Don't bother with him and find out what he does. If he wants you he will let you know somehow. But if he so much as does not even call, then kiss him goodbye.
2006-08-07 07:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you definately need to talk to him...tell him EXACTLY how you feel. You're not some lab rat that needs testing and EXPLAIN that to him. Ask him why he feels the need to test you and make you do all this stuff.
if he is looking for reasons to break up with you, then I think you already have your answer. Is it really worth it?
Most importantly, follow your heart. Do what you think is right, and listen to your heart.
Good luck,
Xxjes
2006-08-07 07:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋