Pls tell me which position is good ? And how long wud the bleeding last..?? When can I have sex again ?
2006-08-07 06:56:41 · 28 answers · asked by dragonfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The most important thing is to take plenty of time and have lots of foreplay. Your husband will most likely be ready far sooner than you will....don't let him rush you too much.
Missionary position is probably more comfortable for the first time. Bleeding may or may not occur. If you take your time, make sure you are well lubricated (naturally or w/KY liquid) and go slowly, you may not have any bleeding. You can have sex as often as you feel like it. The first time or two may be pretty painful but you will soon find sex more and more pleasurable. Don't expect it to be great right away - virgin sex is more fun for the man than you. Assuming you are Christian, you may want to check out this site: http://www.themarriagebed.com/pages/sexuality/index.shtml
2006-08-07 07:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... first time go for the missionary position, or better yet, go on top, that way your in control and it will probably hurt less. As for the bleeding, you might not bleed at all, but if you do it wont be a huge amount and it usually doesn't last that long. Just dont worry about it, have a few drinks, relax and go with the flow, then go for it again when you feel like it... theres no set time frame.
2006-08-07 07:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations darlin! (on the wedding). um, as for your problem. i know exactly what you are going through. i'm a virgin too. i'm getting married july2007. however, i'm already stressing the same thing. all i can say is that he knows you well (otherwise you wouldnt be getting married). and he is the one for you. he will be easy and take it slow with you. if not, let him know in advance how nervous you are and that you would prefer taking it slow.. also, you could always wait until the honeymoon or whenever you are ready. "they" say a lot of the time guys have so much pressure to get it up, they cant sometimes. dont worry. you'll be fine. and what is meant to happen will happen. hopefully everything will go smoothly and for the best. good luck!
2006-08-08 11:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess go with it and I am sure hes just as nervous as you. If hes more assertive ask him what he wants to do usually a guy on top works for the first time more if hes had sex before and you don't have to wait to have sex again usually you bleed very little but sure everyones different. Everything will work out fine just be happy and take care of each other forever.
2006-08-07 07:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sweet! I'm proud of you for waiting. A lot more folks are waiting for marriage to have sex than it often appears,and it's very heartwarming to hear from another "purity-freak" :-)
Just don't fret about positions and things like that.Just flow along with the love of your life!
Relax! It'll all take some getting used to,I don't doubt, but just do what feels comfortable for you. DON'T feel as if you have to "perform" in a certain way. (And from all accounts, the bleeding will only last as long as a regular cut would.)
CONGRATULATIONS AND HAVE A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE!!
2006-08-07 07:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of manual stimulation sounds good for you. Not too much, don't dry yourself out, you might want some personal lubricant on hand. Have him use his hands on you, he'll enjoy it and you'll loosen up physically and sexually. Just go slow and enjoy each other. Congratulations on the wedding as well. I enjoy being married. As far as any bleeding goes, you shouldn't have any, and if any, very little. Man on top is probably going to be your best bet. Make sure he goes nice and slow. If done correctly, you can have wonderful sex very often.
2006-08-07 07:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some it hurts, for other's it's not so bad.. it depends on how much you can tolerate pain.
Some bleed some don't.
Try not to get nervous, and clench up, it'll make the situation worse.
Be sure to talk to him about it, tell him what's going on, and
If it get's too painful, or if you find it too difficult, stop.
Only you know when your ready, you can't just make it happen out of the blue, or set a date to it.. when your ready, you'll know.
Only you know when you can have sex again, or attempt for a second try.
After a few times you'll adjust to it..goodluck! And Congrat's on getting married!
2006-08-07 07:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by xx_ladyxluck_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T EVEN stressing over the sex now. You're going to get married, it's going to be a spectacle. You're going to be so tired on your wedding night that sex will be the last thing on your mind. Relax and enjoy the time with your new husband and when it DOES happen, it will probably be great.
get premarital counselling to be SURE YOU CAN TALK WITH EACH OTHER
2006-08-07 07:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thng is being comfortable with ur new husband. alot of times u wont bleed. esp if u use tampons, and u can have sex any time after that if u want, u can even do it RIGHT after the first time, it may hurt some, but once u get used to it, it wont anymore.
2006-08-07 07:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by jackaleen05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, bring the KY. That ain't short for Kentucky....its a lubricant. Now the bleeding stuff, there may not be any, but if your hubby is gentle, everything should go just fine. A bottle of wine drank before hand always helps..LOL. Good luck.
2006-08-07 07:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by dd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋