How should I take that?

Question

I went to meet my boyfriend’s family this past weekend, I had a nice conversation with his dad, but he said something that hurt me. My boyfriend’s family is wealthy, his father holds an important position in the church we attend, his family history is “impressive”... my boyfriend has a good “track record” (as far as his dad knows) I don't. I got married when I was 17 divorced at 21, I have a son who is now 10. I was not raised in the Church I belong to now, but I was raised religious and with good morals. My family is upper middle class.

His dad said, “I worry about your track record. I cant see what you are all about. I can with other girls who where raised in the Church, I know they have done this or that… and can guess who they are based off of that”

OUCH! How should I take that? Should I tell my boyfriend and see if he can shine a little light on the meaning…would that only make him worry? What his dad thinks is important to him.

Answer 1

I'm guessing your 'track record' is far in the past now, right? (have son at 18ish +10=30ish years old now, right?). It's not like your 22 and all the bad track stuff was yesterday. You have been straight and good for 10 or so years, right? So you made a mistake in your youth, and learned from it.

You should take dads comment as he does not know you. Your an alien to him. Your typical church going person lives in a very tight bubble of only the church going people like themselves. He is afraid you might have other skeletons in your closet that might hurt his poor son. Or that you might make bad tracks again(because everything that happened was your fault).

Though mostly, you should ignore dad. He is too far gone, lost in his own world. So just smile and be nice to him, and feel sorry for his poor lost mind.

Answer 2

Easy, begin your possess faith. Preach a few standard ideas and get a accumulating by way of a tent revival scheme like Elmer Gantry did. Your message might be that cash is evil. You can uncover prices within the Gospel to aid that. The first 30 days is to get contacts to evangelise your message. Use the cash from the tithes to shop for a radio spot. Then 2 spots. Then three radio spots. Do a tent revival two times an afternoon in one-of-a-kind areas, 3 occasions in a single spot on Sundays close a town. Within 60 days begin a TV software, then your possess TV station. You would possibly not rule the arena immediately however by means of one hundred days you'll have an impact on the balloting of politicians in America.