1 week ago, my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years broke up w/ me. He says he still loves me, but he's not sure if he wants to get married at all in his life and he thinks this is unfair to me. So he wants to be friends in the meantime and he still calls and tells me he loves me and sends me emails daily. I thought maybe we had a chance at working it out, but last night, a good friend of mine called and apparently, he doesn't need space - 2 days after we broke up, he was on a popular dating site and he hit on my friend (not realizing she's my friend). He doesn't know I know what a liar he is - if he wanted his space and didn't want to spend more time w/ me, then why is he attempting to look between other women's legs for the answer? I know I have to confront him, and get the rest of my things from his place, but how do I let him know I need to see him w/out looking needy or letting him know something is up before I get the chance to say it to his face? Please help - I feel sick over this.
2006-08-07 06:34:33 · 10 answers · asked by SuperJenn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you want to get married? If the answer is yes then drop this guy like a bad habbit. Yes, it can get worse. You could be sitting around in your 40s or 50s wondering when the engagment ring is going to come.
What he is doing is trying to have it all and make no sacrifices. He is playing you right now and what makes it so bad is he is letting you think he is still interested and stopping you from finding someone who will devote themselves to you. Truth is if he is on a dating site he is looking for a replacement but keeping you as a back up.
The best thing to do is break it off and move on. Get your stuff and cut off contact. You'll find there are plenty of other guys out there.
I am a guy and have seen other guys do this. Never understood why they do it either.
2006-08-07 06:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by JFra472449 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question to answer, but I would just try and do your best, not to say anything to him about it until you get the rest of your belongings. I know it is easier said than done, but otherwise it may just make it harder for you. I would definitely confront him once you are there because although, technically he may still love you, it seems that he just doesn't want a commited relationship, which is okay in some ways, but there is no reason for him to string you along as if nothing else is happening. It is hard to be honest about something, especially when you are in love, but it is best, as I said, to confront him about how you feel and let him know what you know, maybe he will offer an explanation then, but it is not a guarantee. He could deny it too. Good luck.
2006-08-07 06:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad it was only a few years, my b/f of 10 years did the same in july when he said he needed space and moved in with a g/f of mine 3 days later, just go get your stuff and it will be real hard but you have to go on and you will find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated. Good luck to you
2006-08-07 06:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by michele c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello... I would say.. if you do not have a lot of things left there to pick up... just leave them there.. and ignore him and move on... he's obviously not interested.. having a talk with him will only make you hurt even more... believe me.. I know...
on the other hand.. if you have a lof ot stuff there.. just ask him when you can collect the rest of your stuff.. and pick them up.. and leave.. I wouldn't try to talk to him ... but you can always tell him.. "I know that you lied to me about needing a break and that you are dating other women so I hope you find someone you can treat with respect".. leave.. and move on... believe me.. you don't want to force the issue...
2006-08-07 06:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he was trying to spare your feelings instead of being honest with you. Maybe he wants to play the field and was bored in your relationship. Set up a time and go get your stuff. Talk to him then about it. tell him you want the truth no matter how painful it is and then move on.
2006-08-07 06:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're coming to get your stuff. Don't waste your breath talking to him, about anything. It's not worth it. You deserve better, please don't waste your time. Go to his place, get your stuff, leave & have nothing more to do with him. Talking will just let him know that he's gotten to you, don't give him the satisfaction.
2006-08-07 06:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by luckyirishgirl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over its just 1 man
2006-08-07 06:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up a time when he is home to get your stuff and give it to him good
2006-08-07 06:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good story. sorry no time to ready stories...
2006-08-07 06:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by jaishankar4202002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
way too long
2006-08-07 06:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by a guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋