How can I stop feeling like my world is crashing slowly?

Question

Ok I've been raped,molest,abuse mentaly,physically,cutt,is bulimic, lost my self-esteam,and just don't know what life has to offer anymore

Answer 1

I tried to email you back but it wouldn't go threw. Don't let those people poison your mind like this. You don't live for anyone but yourself and your family. I have been raped, abused and so on I kept it bottled in for so many years that I was asking the same question that you are what does life have to offer me? Because those people started hurting me first I thought it was okay to hurt myself as well and it didn't do nothing but cause me longterm pain. Because I was molested I thought it was okay for guys to do whatever they wanted with me, because I was raped by people who loved me I thought that by using my body I would get everybody to love me but that didn't do nothing but cause pain for the long term. I might not be able to have children because I was not protecting myself, I was a addicted to cigarettes and drugs,and the list goes on. I didn't know who to go to for help because my mother was always working and my father wasn't around. It's not the worlds fault that these things happened to us but it is the people in this world. I think since you can not talk to your mother you should write her a letter telling her that you need help for what the rape has done to you be honest in the letter and tell her everything I didn't tell my mother until I was 19 and she was so upset and depressed because she could do nothing about it. I was first molested at the age of 5. If you tell your mother now then she still has time to protect her baby from the evil people in this world but if you don't tell her then there is no way possible that she can give you the help that you need. I know you feel alone but you are not. You can email me any time to let me know what is on your mind. You shouldn't have to live and go through the same things that I did. I thought that I had no one but I did, I just never let anyone know the pain that I was really in, everyone thought that I was a happy child, that I was ok and protected when I wasn't, because I felt so much shame that everyone would think that it was my fault. So I took it out on my mind and my body until I realized that so many women are going threw the same things that we are and we all feel the same way. If all else fail, you can email me and I can help you get threw this the best way that I know how. But the first thing you have to do is realize that it is not your fault and stop hurting yourself because the one person that should be feeling the way that you do is the person who done this to you. Keep your head up and don't let the people that did this to you poison your mind, the way that I let those people poison mine.

Answer 2

You are here on earth for a reason and it sounds as if you need some professional intervention immediately. I am so sorry that you have been through so many negative experiences, but there is always hope no matter how bad the past has been. I've been through some terrible things too, my mother abandoned me and was never available emotionally, I was raped by a family member when I was 8 years old, I went through bulimia before it had a name, I had a really abusive marriage and my husband tried to kill me, and all along I just wanted to lay down and die. I had to learn to let go of the bad times, and keep moving forward. The first step was getting on medication for my depression and that would be a logical first step for you. If you have a doctor, go to them, and if you don't look under mental health services in the phone book - they can refer you to someone who can put you on medication to help you. There's nothing wrong with taking medication for depression either, many, many people take these medications regularly and if it helps, what's the big deal? There is help out there, but you need to ask; the sooner the better. I know you can turn this around and feel better about yourself. God Bless You and Good Luck!

Answer 3

Elesha, you keep asking these questions, and I keep giving you suggestions, and say to never give up, and you send me a not back that you can't get over it. Nearly three decades have passed since I was molested, and it still hurts, and I'm still mad -- you are not alone. I try to reply to your messages, but you still haven't validated your email, so it doesn't go through. Then the next day, here you are with the same questions...

What happened to you was terrible and wrong. It was not your fault, and you will never be able to travel back in time and change things. However, you can redevelop your sense of confidence and security - BUT IT TAKES TIME AND EFFORT. There is no magic pill or wand to make the pain go away; but the sooner you seek out help, the sooner you will start to feel better.

Time is the only way through this, and you will get beyond it more effectively if you seek counseling and solace from others who have been through it and understand. Instead of spending your time here asking strangers for answers, go to the sources that already have them for you: call the hotline + go through those web links I gave you.

WE can't make you better -- and trust me, I would if I could. Only you can do that, so you have to take one step at a time as you work toward building a better future for yourself. As the ads say: Just Do It. 1-800-656-HOPE

I know it seems intimidating to talk to someone, but by just picking up the phone and making that first phone call, you will feel relief come over you. The RAINN center has had over 1,000,000 calls -- you really aren't alone! They have helped so many girls and women with the feelings you are feeling right now. You will not regret making that call.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for everything that has happend to you.... I was molested and then also raped... So I may have an idea of how you are feeling in that department too. For a long time I felt like an alien, after the molestation. I mean I didn't know anyone else that had been molested...No one could relate to me or my anger. After that, as a teenager I started having sex with the wrong men. One of them actually raped me. It took me days for me to realize that I had been raped. So after that happend I felt like I was the
biggest idiot on Earth I mean how can you let yourself be abused 2x's in 1 lifetime right?
I am soooo sorry you are feeling this way.... I think that the best thing for you to do is to make some friends that have had similar experiences....Talk to people... Talk to the school counselor, or a psychologist, or a psychiatrist. You don't have to be crazy to be going to one of these people. I've gone to all of them, and it has been a benefit cause they come up with stuff that I could have never thought of... You know, since they are not involved in your life in another way it gives them a clear view of what is going on.

One thing YOU MUST realize is that NONE of this is YOUR FAULT. It is not your fault you got molested. It is not your fault you got raped. And I am sure that you are a beautiful person. Everybody has something very special to offer to the world! One thing that I did to stop feeling so disgusting and ugly is that I started locking myself in the bathroom, staring at my self on the mirror, and eventhough I did not believe it for a long time, I kept repeating to myself that I was preaty. It doesn't work at first but then after doing it so many times, you start looking for stufff on your face that is preaty. Like one day, stare into your eyes.... They sure as hell can not be horrible right? Email me....if you want we can talk.... and I am Sorry this is so long...

Answer 5

I've not had bulemia, but I have experienced the rest. And I can tell you from personal experience that the only way to go is up.

Get someone to help you- a counsellor who knows what she's talking about would be a great place to start. Take control of your life, decide what you want to do with it- and then DO. Don't let those slimeballs that hurt you keep you down.

Gather friends around: They will help too.

You are your own person. Take charge. And good luck, Honey.

Answer 6

Elesha, this will take more than a quick fix. Seek psychiatric/psychological long-term counseling for your own sake.

Answer 7

I know how you feel, as trite as that sounds. You need to find a counselor, one that yuou can connect with and really talk to. Good luck.

Answer 8

Hey good news, you made it so far!
Now tell me, after all of this, your still standing right?
So you must be a strong person, let me tell you something,
NOTHING CAN STOP YOU!! NOTHING AND NO ONE CAN HURT YOU ANYMORE!! find a good friend to talk to, and get some help please.