Okay my niece (Ashley) is 5 and her friend (Betty) is also 5, Betty lives next door. Bettys mom is divorced and is dating, I have no idea what goes on at Bettys house, but the other day Ashleys mom walked downstairs. She found Betty telling Ashely to lay on her back so Betty could "bounce on her". She was talking about sex. I am not sure if Betty has seen more than she should at home, but what should I do about Ashley???? She knows that Betty was trying to "hump" (thats what she says) her but she doesnt understand. They boys on the other side of their house are also trying to kiss her. ALL OF THESE KIDS ARE UNDER THE AGE OF 10!!! How to I explain to her that this is sooo wrong???
2006-08-07 06:24:42 · 15 answers · asked by wondering_questions 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This happened at Ashleys house, her mom was watching Betty for 20 minutes while Bettys mom was at the store.
2006-08-07 06:31:11 · update #1
Do not let them play together for awhile and dont make a big deal out of it. She might try to do it for attention next time. Let her know that it was wrong and drop it. Just tell her she cant play with her for awhile.
2006-08-09 12:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by pickle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but someone needs to call child services. Who know what is going on in that house and if someone is doing something to this child . And the little boys that are trying to kiss them are they related to little betty or they are just random kids in the neighborhood? if they are random kids talk to those little boys parents. To put an end to this . But please someone call children services . maybe the mom is not all there since the divorce . Something is not write here.
as for ashley explain to her about her body and how no one is supoose to touch her anywhere that is wrong or very uncofotable not even mommy or daddy i teach this to my kids. And be honest not to complicated and make sure she know all her body parts the way the are used by doctors . U know penis vergina breast and so on . i heard of a cse in court that was thrown out a long time ago becopuse the child did not know the real names for the body parts . And the pervert got off and is walking the streets .
2006-08-07 06:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by mary_llinas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly,ashley needs to be seperated from Betty,for obvious reasons.At least for a little while.Explain to ashley that what these children are attempting to do to her is wrong and they are invading her privacy.Also tell her that she should tell a grown up if anyone ever does this to her again.Someone also needs to talk to betty's mother and alert her as to what her child is doing.
2006-08-07 06:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the parent of these children to sit down and have a talk and let them know what is acceptable behavior and what is NOT. For now don't make much of a big deal about it b/c if you do she will too. If it were my daughter that it happened to I would not let her go over there and keep there playtime supervised until this all blows over or better yet find her another friend she could get interested in playing with. Good luck!
Talk to the childs(Ashley's) mom about your concerns.
2006-08-07 06:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to Bettys mom first of all... and explain what is happening. She needs to talk to her daughter too! I think if maybe that happens and you let it go... it should stop. If you make a big deal being five I think she will be curious why and ask questions. If its let go and stopped, I would hope it will all just fade. She doesnt understand and I think if you approach her more on it she will understand it even more. If you understand what I am saying. The boys, man I remember being in kindergarden and having boys chase me around saying they are going to kiss me. Its just playing. Its nothing to be concerned with. As long as they are around the same age. Nothing happened to me or anything... they never caught me. I just ran! :)
2006-08-07 06:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by JustWondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley's mother needs to speeck to betty's mom and let her know what is going on with her daughter. I also would not let Ashley go over to Betty's any more.
2006-08-07 06:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by SALANDA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids have been playing doctor for as long as there have been kids. yes, they shouldn't be playing without some kind of supervision, but not just for the reason you described - goodness knows 2 5-year-olds can cause some serious mischief when they set their minds to it.
it's been my experience (raising two kids, and having been a kid myself) that the bigger something is blown out of proportion, the more attractive (or downright irresistable) it will become. has she dropped the "f" bomb yet? because when she does, if you get hysterical and make a really big deal out of it, it's going to cue her to the fact that that is something very special that is going to get her some attention, and quick. try to bear in mind that a certain level of "sex play" is normal and natural. maybe you could read some child development books for adivce on how to deal with this type of thing.
http://www.ces.purdue.edu/providerparent/htdocs/March%202003/Health-Safety/WhenChildren'sPlay.htm
2006-08-07 06:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by gilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and have a long talk with the childs mother. All children are curious but I am with you it sounds as if the child has seen more than she should at home. And I wouldnt allow them to play unsupervised for a while.
2006-08-07 06:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Angela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to Betty's mother.
2006-08-07 07:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by ShineOnYouCrazyDiamond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine. Almost all children explore and experiment, as it's a natural part of growing up. This will not scar her or anything, and it's not as if she is going to get an STD or get pregnant. It's just normal, so let them be.
2006-08-07 06:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋