Because it is summer, my boyfriend is on vacation (on the other side of the country) with his family. He has been gone for one week and won't be back for another week.
While he has been away, I keep thinking that he doesn't like me. I don't get it; he e-mails me constatly. The only other girls he e-mails are my two best friends; one of which he already went out with.
Do you have any idea as to why I feel like this? Tell me if you need more specifics, but say what you need to know. Thanks!
2006-08-07 06:22:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Crimson
It sounds to me that you really like this guy - I took a look at your profile and you make a sweet mention of him. It just sounds that what your having a problem of dealing with when it comes down to him is loneliness - you miss him - and your imagination is not being nice to you at the moment because its filling your head with things that may or may not be there. All human beings have to deal with loneliness and its not abnormal for you to be having many of the thoughts and feelings you are having about your boyfriend.
Lets look at what you said about this situation. You know he is on vacation and while he is out there he certainly doesn't need to be contacting you every or almost every day as he has so far. He is contacting a couple other girls - but it seems if you know about this he is being honest with you and not trying to hide things from you. Are you are being honest with him and telling him your feelings - don't blame him for them because they are not his fault and the situation is not of his making (this is a family vacation you said). Just tell him how you feel and that you miss his company. I would also make it clear that you appreciate that he is staying in touch, because it seems that although he is away he has chosen that your relationship with him is a priority and he is staying in contact.
You might also want to check your feeling about his continued contact with your friend he once dated. There might be nothing - but I would not be surprise to learn you have some suspicions regrading something - whether they be real or imagined. However, the key think is that you need to deal with your feelings of loneliness and no matter how old you get - all human beings have to learn how to deal with loneliness because for most of our lives we will be lonely - no matter whether you become married and have dozens of relatives, children and friends around or you stay unmarried and never enter into a serious relationship in your entire life.
I give you credit for opening yourself up for possible criticism here by writing a question that could lead you to getting some unwarrented attacks on yourself. So keep your chin up and talk with this boy. He sounds like he is a lucky guy and if he does right by you then you are a lucky girl to have his attention as well.
Take Care
2006-08-10 06:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say trust ur gut.. something is missing. even if u can't put ur finger on it, u are not being satisfied in some aspect of the relationship. i'm not saying to dump him *yet*.. u have to communicate w/ him, and find out what it is that is missing. figure out in ur time away from him, what u want in a boyfriend. what u want from yourself as a girlfriend. find out what u are working towards in the future in ur relationship. is it going anywhere? do u feel happy with him? does he make u feel safe and secure, that u are awesome, that u are attractive, that u are wonderful and appreciated? do u try to make him feel that way? if u feel like u can't trust him, or that "he's not that into you", etc, u have to find it out and nip it in the bud. if he disagrees, wants to make it work, he will. if he thinks ur dumb, or doesn't validate ur opinions, then u'll know what u have to do. relationship is two people, both working hard to make it better and better each day. if u become stagnant, lazy, dont' grow, or don't understand eachother, something is wrong. doesnt' mean u don't love or like eachother, but it just means it's not enough for you anymore. good luck, and work it out. if u do ur best, u will have no regrets, even if u have to break up.
2006-08-07 06:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi its the guy that e-mailed you. I think that you just might miss him alot saying that he's gone for 2 weeks. When he comes back I think you'll feel better.Good luck!
2006-08-09 02:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by Derek Dirisio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your just overreacting. I mean i'd worry that he doesn't like you if he were to lose contact or ignore you but he's clearly making an effort to keep in touch. If someone else was on his mind you'd be able to tell because he'd act distant. Just relax and see what happens... if he didn't like you, he'd break up with you, its simple as that.
2006-08-07 06:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you don't believe he loves you,he emails you constantly and thats great,but you don't know what hes saying to your friends especially to the one he already went out with.find need to find out and its better to do it on the phone or even better face to face-but you can't wait,the phone is your best bet.Tell him wahts bothering you and that you want to hear his voice and hear that he loves you.chances are if you're more confident about that,you'll be fine.
2006-08-07 06:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rosy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's going to feel that way because he on the other side of the country. but if he really doesn't care wouldn't e-mail you everyday .so just keep your head up and if not ment to be youll know
2006-08-07 06:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by booplizer_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, do you feel that he doesn't like you anymore, or do you think he is cheating on you?
You think that he doesn't like you becasue you don't have him near you, if the deal is that than don't worry, occupy yourself by hangin' with your girls, getting some "me" time and just chillin! If you feel that he is cheating on you than ask him upfront and take it from there. Either way, you'll survive! Good luck!
2006-08-07 06:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it if doesnt like u trust me he'll find someway 2 tell u
2006-08-07 06:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're young in years, inexperianced at life , and immature toward relationships..
2006-08-07 06:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're jealous.
if you can't get comfortable and trust him, maybe you shouldn't be with him. just think about it. you have to be happy and safe and be able to trust him 100%. ifyou can't, he's not for you.
but it doesn't sound like he's really doing much to make you doubt. it's just coming from you??
2006-08-07 06:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋