anyone out there who used to be really shy and are now very talkative and outgoing? how did you do it?

Answer 1

I used to be shy to the point where it was starting to get unhealthy. I couldn't even say hi to people without feeling really nervous and fidgeting, but ever since I grew a pair and joined a a co-ed frat at school, I've been a much louder and more fun person. It really helped that I started going to parties and talking to people in groups. I find that I have a harder time doing stuff one-on-one since the conversation will rely only on me and the other person, but in a group the conversation can carry on for a longer amount of time, which I like. Also, the friends whom I've known for a really long time have introduced me to their friends, so that really helps me come out of my shell. Oh, and don't worry about what other people think about you and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. The main reason why I used to be really shy is because I cared to much about how others percieved me, my personality and my attitudes, but once I stopped worrying about it, I started to become much more outgoing and I've made a lot of new friends in the process!

Answer 2

Gain confidence in yourself and quit worrying that others will think negatively. The main reason anyone is shy is to avoid being laughed at or put down for opening their mouth at all. I was mostly shy b/c I just couldn't hear anything (80% deaf) so i couldn't just jump in convo's. As you grow up though and observe your peers, you realize they seriously will NOT care. Usually they won't...at least in high school they stop being assholes. Best you can do is be yourself and be confident enough to stick up to what you say. If someone wants to give you shet about your opinion, *** 'em. If someone wants to debate you, well, you should have logical data to back yourself up in the first place, otherwise, it's ignorance. But overall, you shouldn't take it all too seriously. You have a right to opinion as much as everyone else. Nothing to lose really.

Answer 3

I'm still very shy but i find that after i spend some time and get to know a person i open up and i mean really open up.....time varies with the people...a stranger could tkae more time than a classmate...a doctor i see twice a year compared to a grandparents...eventually you'll get over your shyness but for now you just have to let that person(s) know that you are indeed shy and theres nothing wrong with that.

Answer 4

I'm shy too, I don't say much in groups but I'm fine with one to one's as long as it's someone I feel comfortable with. As for you question, I havn't got a clue! I suppose it's just about making the effort, the more you make the effort, the less it feels like an effort if you see what I mean. Not easy though I know:)

Answer 5

Once you build confidence in yourself, it'll be much easier. You just have to realize that what people think don't matter and most of the time they're just jealous that u have something they don't. I slowly developed confidence to speak to people and when I realized that people aren't all that bad, it became easier and easier. Fake it if u have to. Tell yourself that you're confident and secure the next time you're in a group. Say to yourself that "I'm all that. I'm the prettiest (or most handsome), smartest, and coolest of all these people." I promise, people will gravitate towards you.

Answer 6

I used to be terribly shy!! I now speak in front of people and talk to people all the time. It helped that I used to sing in choir. That got me better used to being in front of people. I also hung around people that made me feel good about myself. That confidence was a huge springboard for me.

Answer 7

I use to be really shy, but then i realized i didnt have confidence in myself. U gotta fight it and just talk no matter what anyone thinks about you, after hearing what they say u learn from your mistakes and eventually you get better

Answer 8

I started talking to people. Really. Start with one on one conversations and move on into groups. I'm still quiet in groups but I'm working at it. Try a few speech classes.

Answer 9

Alcoholism

Answer 10

hey man, u r just like me, i had this one too, but now i m ok....well u know, man, with me, i have some speech problems so thats why i always got confused and cant talk to anyone...then..someone told me, try to speak lonely, and after that try to talk with someone...dont think, no body will anything about u wrong..ok..just talk and try to be happy..dont get confused,...hopefully it will help u