n't coming home, leave me a message so I don't worry, no shoes on the hardwood floors, let me know if we're out of something or if you take the last of something, lock the door before bed, etc. My question is about her having her new boyfriend sleeping over. They have been dating for about 1 month now, and he lives with his parents, and follows their rules. She asked if he could sleep over if it was late and we (my fiance and I) said yes, but because I have guardianship of my nephew, I said not in her room yet. If he'd like to sleep on the couch, or in a spare room, by all means, but I don't want my nephew, whose room is across the hall, to see different guys emerging from her room, so I told her after they had been dating for 3 months he could sleep in her room. I honestly didn't think it would be an issue because the last guy she dated that lived with his parents was when she was in high school, and assumed that she would stay at the boyfriend's apt./house. Does this seem fair?
2006-08-07 06:00:09 · 13 answers · asked by lorlor5683 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not like she has a lot of different guys over, or goes through boyfriends like crazy, but my nephew's mom did, and I don't want him to think that that kind of behavior is ok. And Kevin H is an idiot. If you don't have a serious answer, please don't waste my time
2006-08-07 06:14:29 · update #1
Your house, your rules. If she doesn't like them, she can move out. Especially since she's 23. I think all your rules that you listed are totally fair. I would have the same rules, if I were in your situation. As for her boyfriend sleeping over, I agree that he should sleep on the couch. Good for you, looking out for your nephew.
2006-08-07 06:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i does not kick him out, yet you need to ascertain some genuine regulations that the two certainly one of you could stay via without lot of grief. He needs to get a job fist of all and needs to circulate to college or attend some type of educating application. i might learn the section that I stay in and notice what opportunities the community provides. you would be suprised how many mothers and fathers are interior the comparable place as you. he's not 12 any greater and this needs to be time-honored via you. in case you're being a crutch to him do away with the crutch from him slowly and attempt to make him stand on his own. once you have exhausted all the available channels to you, then you definately can a greater effectual outlook on the placement after that. then you definately can come to a decision if the residing preparations are no longer working. good success.
2016-12-11 04:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a good idea. She sould respect your nephew and you.I think it's good that you are trying to keep you nephew from seeing this type of behavior. Talk to her she should understand, and if she does not understand than she needs to go to a hotel. now about the letting you know certain things. I gree too. I have the same issue with my roomate. Call me to let me know your ok specially if our kids are at hoem with me. How would I know that nothing happend to you... dauuuuuuuu and I hate it when they put example a soda with like a drop and a 1/2 back in the fridge....God just finish it... I understand where your comming from
2006-08-07 07:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Medical Assistant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most everyone here. I especially loved how Sean's_mom and AnnieR had put it. Why repeat what was already wonderfully said?
I had a roommate situation and we were both adults but had certain ground rules we needed to live by. There is no sense of people feeling uncomfortable in a situation like this especially in their own home.
She is old enough to support herself and move out if she doesn't like it...it's your place. By the way, does she pay rent? If she doesn't I would expect her to pay her share.
2006-08-07 06:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's your house your rules, who can't abide by them let them find their own home so they can have their own rules, it's fair enough she is having her boyfriend stay over in the first place, but she is pushing too much....in my opinion 1 month is fairly a short time to start having such a serious relationship, i wouldn;'t even have him stay over in the first place, let her know if she is upset with this agreement its either he doesn't stay over at all or have her find her own apt so she can have all who she wants to stay over.....take actions quickly before things go out of hand and you begin to stress out......good luck
2006-08-07 07:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica Simpson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have rules and she needs to follow them or get out.I agree that she shouldnt have b/f in same room and 3 months really isnt that long either.Good luck
2006-08-07 06:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get her own place. Period.
Sounds like her only priorities are her own. She doesn't care about you or your family, just a place where she can crash, eat, and entertain men. Good luck
2006-08-07 06:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fair to me. Good for you for thinking of the childs welfare instead of your sisters hormones. m
2006-08-07 06:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-08-07 06:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by bridget36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-08-07 06:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋