My girlfriend and I are 18 and we are going to be going to college. Were both commuting and we only live 4 blocks away from eachother. We were going out for 15 months, and have been apart for 3 months now. She said she wants to be single and be free to do what she wants without anyone telling her she cant or getting mad at her. She also has a friend that hates me for some reason and is pretty much a party girl, going to partys, drinking etc. My ex g/f never used to go to partys and things. We saw eachother almost everyday and have soo many great memories together. There wasnt any real problems between us. She says she loves me and wants to be together in the future, maybe even as late as the end of college, but i cant deal with not being with her for so long and seeing her with other people. She said that she knows im the best guy she will ever meet and she still has pictures of us in her room. Should I totally distance myself from her or should I still see and talk her ?
2006-08-07 05:43:09 · 7 answers · asked by Help mee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Distance yourself and find someone else. You are young people change. Go out have fun meet tons of women. You will find someone who will actually treat you with respect. For now enjoy your college years after that is when you really have to grow up.
2006-08-07 05:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by vsecrets24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't communicate with her at all. All she is going to do is hurt your feelings and make you mad all the time by telling about the parties and the guys and things like that, so don't put yourself through all that, man, really. It's going to be hard for you because I believe that you really do love her, by the way you explained the situation. Look, if you stay away from her, she will realize how much she misses you , and she might have second thoughts. But, you both are young, and I wouldn't worry about her too much. It seems like she wants to keep you waiting around on the side, while she goes out and has a good time. Don't let her do this to you. Try to concentrate on school and/or work and just stay away from her. Don't settle for 2nd best to anyone ever. And who knows, you might meet someone else that wants to be with you and only you with no conditions or time limits or rules or anything silly like that.
2006-08-07 05:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should distance yourself from her, from what I've read you really love her, and I can tell you want her back...but look @ it this way, if you keep talking to her and see her then she'll not want you anymore because she'll feel there other men out there, and she'll feel she's already been with you so she knows the type of guy you are, but if you distance urself from her then, in time she'll miss you more and more, then call you and tell you how much she misses you, then maybe something between you to can prosper again....I'm almost sure that's the best thing to do...good luck
2006-08-07 05:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both are so young and i know you are hurt but let her go for now and if she comes back then it was meant to be.You both will go through many stages in life and if she truly feels this way about you believe me she will be back and you wont loose contact with her,but dont run after her just tell her exactly how you feel then let ago and i dont mean completely you wont be able too because you are inlove with her but this will give her time to grow and figure out what she wants in life for herself as for you stay busy and make new friends and do what you need to do for you i wish you the best of luck i bet she will come back just dont push it or you may push her away cc
2006-08-07 05:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do what she wants, let her slut around and see that there is no out there better for her, let her go, if she was yours to begin with then she will come back, she better hope you dont find someone else in the mean time. Thats whats always happens when two people go away to college, its natural for her to want to see whats out there, let her and see what happens, if you stick around then you will only feel like you are stifling her
2006-08-07 05:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space makes the heart grow fonder. I had the same problem with my girlfriend. Let her go and let her do what she wants. She is going to to realize that you were the best she could possibly have and will regret not being with you. Remember patience is a virtue.
2006-08-07 05:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by ajaramill0711 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance would be good for now
2006-08-07 05:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋