one girl is my ex-g/f who dumped me 6 months ago b/c is was unsure she wanted to be in a relationship after 2 1/2 years of dating. now she says she is sure about us and wants to try again. the other girl is someone i meet 2 months ago and things are great with her now, however she is a high maintenance girl and that is not really my style but she tells me she does not like being like that and thinks i can change her habits. am i just caught up in the moment with her? i see a future with my ex-g/f but and not too sure if i see a future with this new girl b/c i think after time she may get bored with me. however i am so into this new girl and i'm scared that if i not to take a chance with her i will be missing out on a good thing but if i do take a chance with her then i lose the sure thing with my ex.
2006-08-07 05:39:53 · 37 answers · asked by mike091677 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow could it be that your ex is jealous you have someone else? Sounds like the girl your with really likes you too, and yes you could be caught up in the moment, rebound feelings..Hbaits are hard to break and either you really love your ex or you miss the habit
2006-08-07 05:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by fun4_gidget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's a gamble Mikey...roll the dice. Lose your insecurity. Obviously you're a valuable human being and both "girls" see this in you. Maybe you should look beyond the two of them and leave yourself available for a little while longer. You don't know who else might come along that isn't high maintenance, that doesn't need nor want you to change her, maybe she would just like to enjoy some good times with you. Apparently the first one is not someone you could really and truly be confident with since she's already left you before. How long will this time last? The high maintenance woman is trying to escape responsibility for her unacceptable behavior in your relationship already, and if she can't or won't change, she would always be able to say, "You knew how I was when we started dating. You can't blame me." Think it all the way through before deciding. These two women are not your only choices in the world. I wish the best of luck to you!!
2006-08-07 05:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you are taking a chance, but one thing is for sure your ex obviously already had gotten bored with you. The new girl hasn't even gotten a shot yet and you are doubting her, but it's not because she's high maintenance, it's because you already know what you are going to do, and you are just making excuses to be with the ex. So, do it, go back to the ex before this girl gets any more feelings involved and you end up ripping her heart out. For future reference though, don't get involved if you are still hung up on someone from the past!
2006-08-07 05:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to choose. That's the fun thing about dating.
Seriously, neither sound like a good fit. Ex-girlfriend dumped you because she was not sure....no dear....she dumped you because she had someone else. Now she doesn't. She'll do this same thing to you again. Why invest?
New chick, high maintenance.....she won't change and you should not be the one to try.
Find a girl that likes a lot of the things you like but is different enough that you can be surprised.
Good luck.
2006-08-07 05:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is ever a sure thing first of all. Your ex amy change her mind again. 2 1/2 years and after a break ahe wants you back. She probably heard you are happy and moved on and wants to take from that. Try things with the new girl, she didn't leave you, yet you want to toss her aside for the ex that left?
2006-08-07 05:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you are in catch 22 situation.The first girl friend dumped you after 2 1/2 years of dating six months back.What makes her think that she is sure about trying again?After 2 1/2 yrs she decided to dump because she was unsure about relationship.What proof is there for you that she wont dump you again?she is not sure about herself even after 2 1/2 years.I think there is no future for you with the ex girl friend.Even after more than 2 years she was not sure of the relationship how come change in mind?So dont be surprised if she turns her back on you. On the contrary the other girl although maintenance cost is more,its hardly 2 months and she is quite frank in expressing herself and that you can change her habits.You also feel great with her.The current girl friend loves you and willing to change her habit .Always go for a girl who loves you and not to the girl whom you love.The ex girl friend is definitely not worth your future.What makes you think that ex girl friend wont be bored with you and ditch you?she already dumped you.Still you have not learnt your lesson.The current girl friend can be moulded to your liking as she has no ego and willing to change her habit for your sake.
Obviously current girlfriend prevails.There is no life without risk.Good luck with your current girl friend.
2006-08-07 06:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, if you all was already dating for 2 plus years and she wants to bail then why take her back? She left you 6 months ago. Man if you take her back she will just do it again and knowing you - you will let her back in~ Unhealthy~ Man, do you. And if you decide not to come back to the old chick then its her loss~ Really cause to me it seems like she wanted to keep you dangling in limbo~ And now she sees you are thinking of moving up with the new chick, she needs to put her bids in again~ What was ole girl doing these past 6 months? She needs to get another HIV test and STD test since she has been M.I.A
Do not be slow dude~ Be happy and chill with the high maintenance chick~ She can change all of that~That's small. But your ex carried you by dumping you and wanting to come back~ Ole girl probably wanted to be FREE for the summer~ Like most females do~ U feel for it. Now pick up and move forward not backward~
2006-08-07 05:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by HotPucci220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the high maintenance girl. They are annoying at times, but in the end, a better choice because they communicate their feelings better.
You ex sounds like a flake who has no control over her feelings. I don't buy the, "oh I'm coming back to you." I think she tried to find someone better, but realizes that you're the only sod she can attract which means she is only settling for yah.
You deserve better than just being someone's leftover TV dinner that was left in the refrigerator for 6 months.
2006-08-07 05:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex might decide that she doesn't want to be with you after all. If she left you once she could do it again. This girl that you are with now might be good for you. My husband and I have nothing in common but we are here none the less 7 years later. I used to be high maintnance but my husband showed me how important it was to have a budget and not want alot of meanless things. The choice is yours. Good Luck
2006-08-07 05:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you now, you'll have a grand old time trying to change her. Most likely, you will fail in your attempt. I'd say go back to your ex and tell her that this is the last chance she'll ever get. That will keep her on her toes and she probably won't break up with you.
2006-08-07 05:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋