I have to jump off the bed and go for a shower, I feel I have to wash out. I never feel in this way before dating this guy I am not that into. I am with him because he is super nice to me. I remembered my ex did the similar thing, he usually went to throw away those stuff in the restroom and then washed his hands or faces sometimes. I did not get it that time. Now I understand because he was also not into me even we were in a seriously committed relationship, he was lying to me all the time to keep me around. Is this a karma? Does anyone have the similar experience?
2006-08-07 05:38:08 · 78 answers · asked by wolf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men have to go to the bathroom and urinate after sex. Its because urine cleans leftover semen out of the urethra.
Semen is basic - urin is acidic.
The urethra is designed for acidic PH specifically
Depending how "rough" or tiring the sex was, we also ned to get some water or a snack. Sex burns alot of energy because it is extremely Cardiovascular in nature.
2006-08-07 05:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't necessarily think that your after sex activities belile your relationship status. Washing your hands, face, and genetalia is not a sign that you are not into the person, but instead is just good practice.
If you do not clean yourself after sex you run the risk of developing a urinary tract infection. Also, people sweat a lot during sex, and a quick shower (ideally with your lover) can help eliminate odor and stickyness from rigorous activity.
I think that you obviously THINK that washing means you don't like him or don't like his leavings on you. Because you feel this way you have trained yourself to want to shower and you insist to yourself that this must be what your ex felt. I tell you now, people do things for all kinds of reasons. It is extremely likely your ex just didn't like to be sweaty or was trying to prevent infection.
Also, you need to let your previous relationship be your previous relationship. Stop obsessing over things he may have done and start living your life for yourself. Also drop this guy if you aren't into him. If he is into you and you are not into him, it can cause major problems later on. Find someone you like.
2006-08-07 05:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have what is called some free floating guilt, that needs a home, and it appears that sex is just the place your guilt is looking to bed down in. It is not such a bad idea to wash up, the question is, what are you trying clean up.
When we humans make love, our subconscious gets to come out and play, so to speak. That opening in your otherwise powerful ego or defense mechanism is dealing with some past fears, paranoia, or hurts unassociated with the present in someways.
This is actually a very good realization on your part. Your internals are know ready to have conversation with you which indicates you are ready to deal with this situation.
Find yourself a professional counselor on this subject and explore your psyche, all that stuff going on inside you which probably needs your attention.
Enjoy the sex, and "Don't sweat the small stuff!"
2006-08-07 05:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I hold each other for a while and talk. Then after about 5-10 mins (sometimes more), we go wash up. I've been with others that had to get up immediately. My husband and I have a very good relationship and we love each other very much. Sex and the bodily fluids that go along with it, isn't nasty, so getting up immediately to wash, kind of breaks the intimacy that you just shared. Cleaning up is necessary, but when you marry someone very special, it should be very different.
2006-08-07 05:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I used to do after sex with my ex was fall asleep on his chest. I still fall asleep on my pillow and pretent it's his chest that I am laying on. It's the only way I can fall asleep.
Anyway, The reason you are wanting to clean up right away is because you feel unclean because you are having sex with someone that you don't truly love. You know in your heart it should be with someone you truly love.
It is not Karma, Karma is something that comes back on you because of something you have done..good or bad. When you do good, it comes back to you tenfold...when you do bad..that comes back on you tenfold. So think about what you are doing to people.
Your ex boyfriend is going to have bad Karma and he will meet a girl who will do to him what he did to you one day..
Now you are doing to another what he did to you.. Did you like the fact that he did that to you? I'm sure you didn't. Learning from others mistakes does not mean repeating them! You are not being honest with your new boyfriend or yourself. Talk with your new boyfriend and let him know you don't feel that way about him. Stringing him along is turning you into a liar..no better than your ex.
2006-08-07 05:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your feeling the need to shower right after sex thats a sign you feel dirty from that act. That means in your mind you know its not right- something is wrong. Even though this guy is nice to you- lyin to him trying to repay him with sex is wrong. I recommend end it now before he gets hurt worse. You didnt like it when your ex lied to you correct? Then dont do it to this guy.
After sex me and my significant other usually cuddle (unless hes sweating like a pig-lol!) But its more of a time for calming down and bonding. If you truely loved the guy your with- you wouldnt fee l the need to shower immediatly afterwards.
2006-08-07 05:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, I never would have thought of this but I believe you're onto something. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and in the beginning we would fall asleep naked in each other's arms. Then he would put his underwear back on and turn the other way. Now he gets up, cleans up, puts his underwear on and will either come back to bed and tell me he's hot (ie. he doesn't want me to get close to him) or he'll get up and watch tv for a while. I think that this behavior coincided with his level of happiness with me. So, I think you are right on.
2006-08-07 05:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by nt2shy74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smoke a cig lay with him for a while and then take a shower, most people jump up after to take a shower because they want to wash away remants of that person, if you are not really into that person there is no reason to lay around, you did the do and now you want to get rid of the person
2006-08-07 05:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just can't see the point in have sex with someone you feel that way about. So my answer is no I can't relate to that. I usually do whatever I want too after sex. Watch tv, go to bed, do dishes or nothing at all. I really think you need to find another partner.
2006-08-07 05:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Eeyore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee and I usually cuddle or spoon each other, or just lay next to eachother for a bit to rest for a few minutes. Sometimes if it is really wet, we rinse off in the shower together, It's very loving and romantic.
2006-08-07 05:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋