There is this girl that I really like and she likes me but I am afraid to do anything with her because I found out recently that she has given 4 guys handjobs. I dont think she has done more than that but my dilemma is I have been raised with good Christian morals and I dont know if I should go on with this girl. I wanted to know how many girls have actually given a guy a handjob and if I am shallow for my dislike in her for that...
2006-08-07 05:35:21 · 13 answers · asked by silverice2388 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could look at it two ways.. she gave the hand jobs because she wanted to preserve her virginity and didn't want to go too far, keeping herself pure when pressured for sex. . . Or she's a dirty slut for doing it with 4 guys. How do you see it? Don't date someone who conflicts with your values, but don't be too judgemental. Few people are virgins anymore, it doesn't always make them bad people or unrepentant Christians. Is she a Christian? Does she believe in abstinance like you do? Don't be too close-minded, but never risk your own values in a relationship.
2006-08-07 05:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't believe every thing you hear unless she offered to give you a hand job. I never gave a guy a handjob and I don't think you are shallow for disliking her for that. I don't blame you for disliking her for giving other guys handjobs but since you have good Christian morals you should know about not holding that against her. Maybe that was in her past so you can't dwell on what she has done in her past. Remember God loves everyone and can forgive them for their sins.
2006-08-07 12:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Redbuddafly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find this information out? Rumors? Gossip? How Christian are you? Especially to be judging her by her past? Look, you don't know for a fact that any of this has happened, you shouldn't assume just because you heard it, means it's the truth. What's the big deal about a hand job anyways? If she has done it, and she admits it, what are you going to say then, "oh, you're too dirty for me"! If you don't like what she's done, move on to some little book worm, dorky chick, and then you'll be on here asking why she doesn't want to make out with you. I'm not saying you're a bad person for wanting a nice girl with good morals, but I'm warning you now, if you ever find that kind of girl, you better hang on to her, because there's not a lot left out there. Good luck!!!
2006-08-07 12:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, some people change. But, you said you don't THINK she's done more than that. You need to know if she has or not, & if your a good christian moral kinda person, you don't want someone who's gonna bring you down like that. But if you really really care for her, don't let anything stand in the way, because maybe she just needs someone to show her some christian morals, like i said some people change. & your not shallow for disliking her for that, i mean that's just human nature. Good Luck!
Hope I helped a little!
2006-08-07 12:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kerosene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a christian I would say that you should still try to be friends and forgive her for what she has done in the past. But also explain that you don't want to go that far. That isn't shallow at all...Keeping Morals isn't shallow...And hey, I bet its tempting to just let her do whatever, but I bet you'll regret that too...
So just be careful. Have fun. and seriously, you can still have fun while keeping things clean and pure...Trust me..My last relationship I kissed the guy maybe 7 times in the year that we went out, and I still had more fun with him than any other guy..
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-08-07 12:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to take a stab at this and say you don't have a problem with her doing sexual things with other people because of your "Good Christian morals" but because you're insecure. It's common. For men and women. I'm going to take one more stab here and say 'especially for men'. A lot of guys are very very caught up in their gf's past sex life.
Now, to answer your question: Who gives a ****? Did she do anything with these guys since she's been 'with you'? What she's done sexually in her past is her business. Ofcourse, you'll probably ask her about it all the time like many guys do, but you really shouldn't be concerned with it. It'd be your business if she had std's or something like that. If you like her, and she likes you. Then what's the problem?
2006-08-07 12:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to remember that not everything you hear is always true. Sometimes people tend to alter the truth. Be honest with her and ask her. Handjobs are quite common so if you really like this girl you will not judge her (good Christians don't judge) but accept her for who she is.
2006-08-07 12:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done a hand job. Tell this girl about your values and she'll understand them and go at the pace both of you are comfortable with in the relationship so there's no rushing it. I don't see why that's a reason for disliking her, don't hold a grudge against her for what she did in the past and you didn't say how old you were or how old she was.
2006-08-07 12:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL.......I don't know how old you are but handjobs arn't really that big of a deal, and I would catch her before she falls in love with sex. It doesnt matter what your partner did its what shes doing with you and vise versa. Use your good judgement and make sure it isn't rumors your hearing.
2006-08-07 12:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well give me a break. Would u want a handjob from her?
2006-08-07 12:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋