My niece and nephew say their mother emotionally abuses them. She also keeps them in their house and has them do chores from 7 a.m till bed which is priority over school work during school. She moves them and hides them from us (Dad's amily). Their Dad is no longer a part of their lives' so I am lost on what I can do to help them. Next school year they begin homeschooling; my niece starts high school next year. They are both against it but fear saying that to their Mom in fear of punishment. They both want to live with me or their grandmother but we are at loss of what we can do according to California law. They also say their Mother does drugs but I have no physical proof of anything. Help please
My niece is cutting on herself and is depressed, my nephew has ADHD which she refuses to treat
They are 12 and 14
2006-08-07 05:24:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if your niece is cutting herself and your nephew has adhd and isnt being treated thats kinda serious....you should prolly talk to childrens services about what can be done....if you tell them there is a possiblity she is doing drugs i think they by law have to test her....if they say she's unfit the kids might be able to live with you until their mother can straighten out her life....but yea definately call childrens services and ask them what can be done and if you can take care of the kids if they think they need to be taken away
2006-08-07 05:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your care, concern and confusion comes across. Take a step backwards and ask yourself a few questions. Why does the father not interact with his children? Was the mother always this way or is it a sudden, but subtle, change? Are you ready for the responsibility, monetary, emotionally, physically and seek therapy for all parties concerned? Are you willing to discuss the subject with their Grandmother and come to a consensus? Are you willing to sit down with their Grandmother, the kids and agree on a course of action? And then follow it through, no matter how hard it may be? If you feel you are strong enough to follow a course of action and see it through to it's conclusion, then by all means take the matter to family court, but have all the facts and figures in place before doing so. Good luck.
2006-08-07 12:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you read A Child called it and the Sequels? It sonds like a very mild case of that. I would contact the state or a social worker. Keep a close watch if you can. Or ask someone that is around them other than the mom to keep a close watch. Read the books though. It was said to be one of the worst child abuse cases in cali. Good Luck.!
2006-08-07 12:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by archonette08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call child protective services. However, give them your name and address. They need to be able to contact you. If they do determine that abuse is happening and the children need to be removed, they need to know that you are available to take the children. If you are not available the children may end up in foster care. Be prepared. If the children are given to you, you may need to move so that the mom cannot retaliate. Also, know that CPS will investigate to make sure that you, or whoever gets the kids, are suitable.
2006-08-07 12:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Eyed Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait any longer. Call child protective services, before your niece seriously hurts herself. Those kids are crying out wanting someone to save them. I hope everything works out and they are removed from that home and placed in a loving one. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-08-07 12:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should deffinately call the police. even if your wrong and there was no evidence of drugs or abuse, its still better to be safe than sorry! and if the mom gets mad at you, its her problem and there is nothing you can do about it, you were just trying to help. good luck and your in my prayers!
~jenny
2006-08-07 12:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
REPORT IT!!!! If you cannot talk to the mother then Child Services will take care of it...
You need to ask yourself what would you do if your neice killed herself....how would you feel then?
Too late top report it then....huh?
2006-08-07 13:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Desamdes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call and make a complaint to the local child development and see what can be done
2006-08-07 12:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take them and forget their mom, but also report her to the police before it's too late for the kids....act now....don't wait..
2006-08-07 12:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by israelmoya20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call childrens services
2006-08-07 13:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋