Im 25. My mom was a single mom and she was so there for us every moment. She was sooo loving. (and still is) And growing up, i was very rebellious twards her. She pushed, i pulled. She left my dad (alcoholic) and my dad wanted to get back at her through me. They all told me lies (his side of the family) about my mom (wich turned out to be all lies) and i didnt appriciate her. I feel i was brainwashed or something. i regret its so bad. i get so depressed that i cant get those teenage years back that i mistreated her so much. She is and was a perfect mom with the biggest heart. No matter how much i appriciate her now, I cant get rid of the guilt. What do i do? Im sick of feeling this way.
2006-08-07 05:17:29 · 9 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have talked about it and shes says its okay, hun, you didnt know & its all over! But i still feel bad!!
2006-08-07 05:29:04 · update #1
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL THE ADVICE. I AM FEELING BETTER. ;-)
2006-08-07 05:52:17 · update #2
If I were you I would apologise properly to her. You were caught in a very difficult family situation at the time and are not fully to blame for what happened. The adults on your father side should really have known better than to manipulate a young person like that. Anyway, you know you can't turn back time so don't beat yourself up about it. You can however, still make it right. Tell her how you feel, have a cry about it ask her to forgive you. I think thats what you need. Good luck.
2006-08-07 05:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that your mother loves you no matter what! and if you feel bad for how you acted as a teenager let her know that you see your mistake and that you are sorry!
As long as your mother knows you appreciate and love her it's OK. you shouldn't feel bad because everyone as a teenager does something stupid that they end up regretting after they get older.
And it usually is in all teenagers to rebel against their parents.
So if you feel bad just tell her your sorry for all the rebelliousness and for not appreciating her then the way you do now. That is probably the best thing you could do now.
If she is as great a mom as you say she already knows but it helps to hear it.
2006-08-07 12:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have just said here, is what we parents try hard to instill in our kids. You are now old enough to realize this. That is so grown up of you to admit this now. You are a real sweet heart!!!
Why don't you take your mom out to eat or to a movie or what ever you two like doing. Have a mother and daughter day out, just spend some time with you and her together. Give her flowers and a card. You can't get those days back now, but you can sure enjoy her now and from this day forward!!!!!!
2006-08-07 12:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down with your mom and told her all of this? I had done a lot in my younger days and had the same feelings you are experiencing. I finally sat down with my mom and explained everything to her. At that point I was forgiven by her, and the feelings no longer feel so bad. My mom and I are the best of friends now.
2006-08-07 12:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by rhiannon02919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to forgive yourself. Obviously she already has. Be there for her now, and honour her by being a great mother to your own children when you have some. She knows you were lied to, she is your mum, she will always love you, it is what a mother does.
2006-08-07 12:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your Mom have had alot to go thru. Mom 's and daughter's frequently have issues to go thru.. my daughter and I have had our fair share. Now that she is a mother our relationship is great. Have you really talked to your mom about how you feel? perhaps this would clear the air and you could forgive yourself ..... good luck.... don't waste anymore time
2006-08-07 12:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Best Way would be to apologies to you mother from the bottom of Ur heart and make things better from now on......... u cant change the past but u can make the future better, ...........
2006-08-07 12:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. It sounds like your making up for it now. I bet she's forgiven you, so maybe you should forgive yourself.
2006-08-07 12:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make up for it all now. be there for her no matter what. and most of all forgive yourself.
2006-08-07 13:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋