Okay people, I have friend who is much older than I am who really want to be with me?

Question

As much as I try, I am not attracted to him at all. I think since he is older than I am; he tries to protray himself as being younger and he looks like a fool. for example put on a nice looking jersy short set with socks and sandals. He even put weave in his head. He turns this rap music up as loud as it would go knowing he is on the verge of a heart attack. thats crzy, I don't like that. I like money and he has alot of it, take that away and I don't know If I would give him the time of day. Don't get me wrong I am not a gold digger but pay my way. This weekend was my class reunion. I went alone but he paid for it. The deal was when I return home he would stop all the foolishness and be a strong man. He was suppose to pick up in OKC, I rented a car, so he didn't have to pick me up, he goes to OKC anyway how crazy is that. I tried to call to tell not to come and he turned off his phone. he came by my home later after I told him not to, hide his car, I see him the ran. crzy

Answer 1

Stop using this guy, by accepting his money you are implying that at some point you will accept him. Repay him for you weekend trip and tell him that the next time he comes over you will file for a restraining order. But if you do this without repaying him he will state that he is just trying to get his money back that he let you borrow. So stop taking his money and being a gold digger (you arent paying your way by letting him pay for you). Good luck

Answer 2

ok then.....uhm.....thats weird. u need to let this guy know that u dont like what he's tryin 2 be or the person he wants to display himself as. tell him that u only give him the time of day because of his money and include the not a gold digger part to make u look better.lol. then tell him try being his self 4 once cause thats the only and best person he can be. tell him u and otha women dont go 4 wanna bs. tell him ur not attracted to what he displays at all and u doubt any1 would if he doesnt start being who he really is..and include also that he needs 2 start respecting womens wishes and their private spaces...

Answer 3

Well, if it isn't there dear it just isn't there and it's not fair to either of you to stay in the relationship when the feelings are not mutual. Just sit him down and talk to him. I am sure you like the money and it is easier for someone else to pay "our" way sometimes but, it just isn't morally right. Let him go and find a woman that Will fall in love with him and then maybe you can find another man and do the same...Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

Woah! Man you need to slow him down and explain that he is just your friend. Tell him to actually listen to you. Maybe he is listening but it is for sure that he isnt hearing. He listens to you say no but he doesnt hear that. Guys liek that seem to be players. Don't fall for it. You can have this player as your friend but if you take it farther and he sees you for a hot chick. Its not so smart. By the way liking people for money is wrong. I mean you should be his friend because he is nice to you, not because he has money. Hun listen this fool needs to slow down. Tell him you don't care what he does btu you will be doing your own thing. Next time for the class reunion tell him your paying for yourself, and make sure you do. Tell him you already payed for yourself and if he wants to waist money than he can pay for you again. But let him no that hes not the boss of you. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Yes, it is nice to have someone with money, but a relationship can't be based on that. You are smart in trying to get away from him, and I am sorry that he did not keep his word. I hope that it doesn't go so far that you will need to get a restraining order, etc. I guess, since he can't seem to take a hint, you might have to come right out and tell him that you'd rather be alone, etc.

Answer 6

No I can't be with someone who has children my age. He sounds crazy as hell so if I where you I would tell him its not working out in the nicest way possible give him the it's not you it's me speech and leave it alone because you don't want a fatal attraction no matter how much money he has. Choose your company wisely because you meet the wrong one and use him for his money and you'll be praying for more than him just leaving you alone. Theres more to happiness than money and it ain't old men honey

Answer 7

Sorry but you seem to be using him for his money. If your not interested in him for him than move on and leave his money alone. If your allowing him to pay for anything of yours it's letting him think your interested and he'll keep coming around. He's the one that's going to get hurt not you. Stop it before it goes any further. He might get so obsessed with you that he'll end up becoming a stalker and you'll have only yourself to blame.

Answer 8

1st it depends on whether or not ur both adults, that's # 1.. also if u don't like him as a b/f then why don't u just say so instead of entertaining him w/phone calls, txt msgs and letting him come to ur house or allowing him to pay of things for u.. all ur doing is just leading him on.. u need to be up front and honest and tell him how u feel and let him know ur not feeling his behavior..

tell him u just would prefer if u and him would be friends.. also tell him u don't appreciate him showing up at ur house un announced or w/out permission..

or tell him ur seeing someone else..

he should get the pic then

Answer 9

If you're really don't want to have anything to do with him, then leave him alone TOTALLY. You spending his money but not giving him the time, honey, weither you know it or not that is called a gold digger.

Answer 10

1st thing - no age bar in luv or frendsip.be urself and dont try to compare his age and habbit wid urs.
2ndly - try to adjust with each other requirements.initially it will be bit hard but gradully u will get used to it.
3rdly - talk to him freely about his needs and analyse him and help him as a true freind