So I am a single mother, 29 yrs. old, with two kids ages 11 & 7. I work hard everyday and have been their whole lives to maintain a household for us, and food on the table, but its never enough. I struggle to keep my head above water EVERY day. Deadbeat dad choses not to be in the picture, at all. I am not complaining because we are very blessed to have our health and I am blessed that I am physically able to go out and work every day, dont get me wrong, but I often wonder if I will ever see the light at the end of this tunnel? how can a man just not care about his kids, and not support them, I dont understand his logic. he owes $80,000 in back child support that i will never see, because he works "under the table" jobs, and uses different social security nujmbers in order to avoid having to pay a dime. how can a human being be so heartless? sorry peeps, had to vent! thanks for listening!
2006-08-07 05:06:13 · 9 answers · asked by Norma S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I appreciate any advice, words of support, I can sure use it now!! thank you all!
2006-08-07 05:07:34 · update #1
and I've heard the "well you picked him" soo many times! I know, I made the worst mistake in judgement and in thinking I can change a man...
2006-08-07 05:17:20 · update #2
BTW- great news, my local news station Channel 11 news did a story on me re: "deadbeat dads" it should air sometime in Sept. be looking out.. it was great to try to shed some light on this situation that doesnt get discussed often...
2006-08-07 05:19:33 · update #3
Because I make $13 an hour, I am not considered "low Income" and do not qualify for any government benefits, or any type of assistance AT ALL, unless I quit my job, which I will never do...
2006-08-07 05:33:48 · update #4
Unfortunately there are alot of men out there like that..Just be proud of the job that you are doing with your kids and the knowledge that you are a strong woman and did it all on your own. I'm a firm believer in you reep what you sow so just be patient yours will come to you. In the mean time keep your chin up and be proud of who you are and what you are accomplishing. Raising children is no small feat...
2006-08-07 05:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by crazy puppy 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I raised my kids without their mom and she never paid any child support. She did take them once or twice a year, only to fill their minds with hate and garbage. (Most of the time I wished she would have been totally out of the picture). It has been over the years but now that I am down to the last one there does seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel. They have turned out pretty well with good morals and a fair degree of responsibility.
Keep up your good work. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to see your results. But if you continue to be a good example, your kids will reap the benefits.
2006-08-07 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by justaskn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an amazing mother. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. It upsets me to hear that your children's father can get away with owing so much. There has to be something you can do, talk to a lawyer. I wish you the best of luck and keep up the good work. It will all work out in the end. God Bless you and your kids.
2006-08-07 05:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how a man can be that way but it does seem to happen often. He is basically selfish and immature, not wanting to face his responsibilities. Your kids are lucky they have at least one parent that cares. I can imagine someday you will be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel but its probably not going to be an easy trip. Good luck to you.
2006-08-07 05:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by erik c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life does not always deal us good things. Sometimes we make poor choices in who we deal to carry our relationship with and we reap the consequences for it.
It sounds as though "dad" will not come through.
This is your life and the way you determine to view it is going to depend on how you feel about it. You can't change the past so you will have to go on.
Stick with it. Your children will learn to view life the way that you respond to life. They need a good view.
2006-08-07 05:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ignored 2: LIFE, AND WHY? God made you considering He loves you. You have one of these factor referred to as 'cause', that's why you're detailed, certainly one of a variety. That makes you 'precise', precise to not me, who cares approximately me, however precise to the person who created you--God. So, having coming to this end it might do you such a lot well, to seek His will on your existence, and are living it to the pleasant of your capability. Good good fortune.
2016-08-28 11:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello lil momma. your story makes me cry.
This guy needs to be put to jail. Hey people! Is their anybody out their who is a lawyer and can help lil momma without charging her?
What about Food stamps? Can u go and aply for them? Dont be ashamed, it´s not your fault.
My family and I will pray for u.
2006-08-07 05:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Carmen G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would contact someone and put his butt in jail.... times are hard and for us people who work pay check to pay check seems we will never see the light.... but keep up the good work taken care of your kids.... you sound like a great mom
2006-08-07 05:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by daisy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
EXACTLY!! this is what life is, or I rather say this is how we make our lives.
this is too much sometimes!! belive me We are NOT the only ones. too bad is the MOJORITY.
2006-08-07 05:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋