other people hate me and i hate myself?

Question

i want to die sometimes. if it weren't for some people in my life, i'd kill myself. but i don't want to hurt them. I just feel empty, tired, numb, sad. How can i stop feeling this way. medication doesn't work. they probably gave me sugar pills cos they think i'm a whiny b*tch. i'll admit, i am though.

Answer 1

Well in order to feel loved alot of times you have to learn to love yourself, get a pen and paper and write down all the things you like about yourself and on the other side write the things you don't and try to figure out why you do and don't like those things about yourself and make a concious effort to change things in your life. Killing yourself is so not worth it, look real deep into yourself and figure out what is really going on. good luck

Answer 2

the way you feel can and will change.
Do you know how many medications there are out there and how hard it can be to find the right one and the right dose? Don't give up. Keep trying.
Remember that eventually, these feelings will pass and you will feel better again. Think of it like having a bad flu. You know when you are sick like that, that you will feel better eventually. That thought and desire helps you get through it. Do the same now.
You are a kind a considerate person for not wanting to hurt the people that care about you. Some people don't care about that when they are so depressed. You are doing the right thing. I have had many times when I felt the same exact way.
And just because you haven't or know you wouldn't actually attempt suicide does not mean the way you are feeling is not serious. You should definitely see a doctor, and if you are very worried about yourself right now, you can check yourself into a hospital or an outpatient program. Just realize you need some help and you deserve some help.
Take care.
God Bless.

Answer 3

The fact that you are asking is great. It shows that you have value.
Your feelings are real and genuine. The way that worked for me when I was really down was to get out and exercise; run, walk, swim whatever you can do. I used to hike up a hill near my house.
I was so depressed that I painted my whole room black; floor, ceiling. walls, everything! Getting out, going to the park, and being with other people helped. Remember you don't have to be 'little Mary sunshine' ALL the time. Like someone else said - if you want to have someone to e-mail, I'm at [e-mail]
feel free any time. You are totally worth the time. Remember, this too shall pass.

Answer 4

People will start liking you once you hold your head up high and start respecting yourself. Tell me if I'm right here. Do you walk around all gloomy all the time never giving eye contact with people you talk to? Or do you even talk to people? If you were out and about wanting to meet people or hang out with someone, would YOU be attracted (I don't mean physical-or sexual) to that person to start a friendship? I doubt it. You have to decide for yourself that you WANT to be happy and work on it. It may start out being "work" but after a while, it will get easier. You are feeling way too sorry for yourself. If you only KNEW what others are going through, you'd feel better I bet.

Answer 5

You're obviously not the whiny b** you think you are because you're thinking about your loved ones and not hurting their feelings. But you do have to find out why you can't find any joy in life. What you project out to people is what you get in return, so you have to smile and be polite talk to everyone and you'll be approachable and get the same reaction in return. Find out what your interests are and persue them whether its art or music, there has to be something that makes you feel good inside. Also make goals for yourself and work hard to reach them and when you do you'll feel confident. Life is an experience so enjoy the ride and make the most of it!

Answer 6

1 word...God.

If He brings you to it, He WILL bring you through it.

I think depression is mostly b.s... I was "depressed" (allegedly), they diagnose it and give you drugs like it's candy and they do it all in one visit, with no actual psychiatric supervision (a general practitioner can do it!!).. so i'd be EXTREMELY cautious about it.. Cause the medication can make things worse (for me at least).. I was on it for about 7 months when I soon realized I had NO feelings at all, some very personal problems, and felt spaced out, I was lazy, didn't want to hang out with people. I was 25-26 when this was going on. It turns out I wasn't depressed (you blew that diagnosis doctor jerk!!), there was a void in my life.. God!!

You don't have to do any of this, but it works.. Go to a church, find a pastor, minister, father, rabbi, etc.. and just let everything go!! Let it gush out!! Tell that 1 person you don't know, and won't judge you, and wants to help you (that's their calling, God's telling them to do what they do..) After you're done, you'll be a completely different person. I know you will. They will advise you & help identify what's really bothering you and how to make things "right" again.

God Bless!! email me anytime.

Answer 7

Once again, I would ask you, what are your good qualities? Surely, there must be something about you that you like...you need to accenuate the positive, and eliminate the negative, and that is from a song from the forties lol..so you see, people have always felt bad about themselves because they worry too much about what others are going to think. It is alright to be sensitive to the feelings of those that love you....because it is a darn shame to end a life when you don't know what is waiting for you tommorow...Happiness begins at home, meaning with in...search for that which you are proud of within,...Love the Lord, and pray through His Son, Jesus,...the medicine might just be making you feel numb. ....Think of helping others worse off than you and I know they are people out there worse off...you might feel so needed and appreciated...Pray for help and forget the meds....those are just a cover up to mask the real problem inside...once you find out what it is that is making you so sad, eliminate it, and don't worry about pleasing anyone but God, Jesus and You...God bless you darling, and I pray you find some peace at mind

Answer 8

see suicide is not the solution. u have to be confident.
if nobody likes u then am going to be ur friend n even evrybody
here will befriend u. n then u should learn to be independent.
let others hate u. u concentrate on ur future n career. try to
be more interested in fashion n make urself an attractive lady
through ur looks n good manners... believe me u have to change urself
n ur way of thinking. n dont neglect urself, enjoy life... dont
feel sad... dont take pills... u dont need them. u r strong enough
to combat that depression n only u can help urself.
all the best to u... wish u lots of success n luck in ur life dear

Answer 9

How old are you? Just curious. I remember having similar feelings before.. What I did was searched and searched until I found who I was. What I mean is that whether it's a religion, belief, job, cause...... we all have something that feels right to us. Once I found mine my life has been great. I still get down at times, but I don't have the empty feelings as much. Jus tknow it'll pass. Email me if you'd like at this name, and maybe i can help you w/ your search.

Answer 10

Your problem is not that others hate you. The problem is that you hate yourself. We believe others see and feel about us the way we see and feel about ourselves. If you hate yourself you're not giving room for others to like you who want to like you. The people who don't like you are not inportant unless you need their approval. Don't let them control your feelings. Some people will try to make you feel bad to make themselves feel better. I know this sounds crazy but you would benefit from a self image change. Get positive thoughts about yourself, even books on building a positive self images. As I did you will discover you are much more wonderful than you can see. You are a loving, caring person because even in your dispair to want to die you are concerned about those you would leave behind. And yes they would hurt. There will always be some people who don't like us but there are other people who do. You just don't know them yet! Give it time, focus on liking yourself. Your value is not in someone else liking you, its in seeing value in yourself. Be your unique self, stop trying to fit in!