Is 12 years old to old to spank??

Answer 1

depends on the child. Always use the best method available for behavior modification. Some people don't listen and different types of punishment are more effective than others. It depends on the person what works and what doesn't

Answer 2

YES !! Its not advisable. My parents never spanked me after I was 10 and between 5 and 10 i was spanked every time. You have to realize that at 12 they are preteens and almost on doorstep of teens . You have stop and think for a minute what are you trying to achieve. You are trying to discipline your kid. Spanking doesn't help at 12+ ages and sometimes it leaves a lasting impression if they got spanked for no fault of theirs (if they think they were not at fault). So the important question here is how would you make your kid realize what they have done was wrong. I have a 12 year old stepdaughter and I have seen its better if you take away something they value like a game or a toy or grounding from something they love to do. Then explain to them why what they did was wrong and what should they do when they are in same situation in future. my personal belief is sometimes as a parent kids wrong doings may make us mad enough where we could end up spanking them more than they need. the best way is to try alternative methods. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

YES! Spanking a child at that point wont be a painful reminder of their poor decision making... instead its more degrading and humiliating. Doing this can damage the child emotionally and will surely cause resentment of you to linger far longer than it would with a younger child. Just remember that when you spank a younger child, they often forget about it as soon as the pain goes away, or their time out ends... this is not necessarily so with an older child. They can and likely will remember it far longer, and may resent you for it. The child may even retaliate against you (overtly and covertly).

Instead, you should look to "punish" them with more effective methods. Grounding a child to their room is effective IF AND ONLY IF, you remove items that can entertain them. Giving a child chores to do (that they normally wouldn't have to do) is also effective. I would recommend that you give them more than just a day's worth of chores... because their actions can quickly be forgotten. If it's a serious offense, I would assign chores over the length of a week, a month, or maybe as an example (of a VERY bad action) a summer? I remember having to mow the lawn for the entire summer because I punched the local bully (i was 10). My father punished me because I attacked him (not the other way around). THIS TAUGHT ME A LESSON. The nice part of this "punishment", is that my father didn't have to mow the lawn! Just remember, the punishment should fit the crime, and seek to reduce the likelyhood of the child repeating their poor choices. If a child continuously repeats that poor choice, providing a more severe punishment is important.

Good Luck.

In short: Don't spank a 12 year old.

Answer 4

No good will ever come out of spanking .. for every time you strike the child you are driving fear INTO the child .. i know some people think that the reason why the child is suddenly behaving is because they have learned their lesson but that's not true in the slightest .. all you have done is you have taught them that it is alright to beat their own children later when they grow up .. and god only knows for how many more generations to come ...

There are SO many other ways to teach them their lessons .. ground them...no playmate .. no tv...no internet .. maw the lawn .. plant the garden .. anything else is better than physical pain

Hope this helped ..

Answer 5

Yes. Spanking is never a good discipline in the first place, but if you spanked your child in the past it's definitely time to stop. Good discipline ideas for a 12 year old are removing privileges, making their curfew earlier (if they have one yet), or grounding if they did something major.

Answer 6

No, but he or she is getting close. Try everything else and give a warning of what you will resort to if the behavior is not stopped. grade school aged kids can be spanked when ever necessary, middle school or Junior high school kids can be spanked as well but you should try other methods first ( grounding ) I look at high school as training for adult hood so spankings should stop here. I hope to never spank my kids past the grade school years. ( or better yet sooner )

Answer 7

You shouldn't spank at any age. I used to get grounded when I messed up and it really made me think of what I had done wrong. I BEGGED my parents to spank me instead, but they wouldn't. For foul language, I got my mouth washed out with soap. After a couple times of that bar in my mouth, Mom discovered that liquid soap took longer to get the taste out. BOY, did I stop cussin' at home after that. It was horrible. Anyway, spankings do not get the point across as well as other forms of discipline.

Answer 8

Not necessarily.. Some children react better to spanking than other forms of discipline. Sometimes the circumstances warrant a spanking.

Answer 9

" spanking is wrong period!" Whoever says that must be gay or doesn't have children.
The rod of correction will turn a rebellious child from his/her sinful ways. As long as your child shows disrespect toward you or others it is never to late to use the rod.
Of course use it with love and to correct a situation. Most parents don't use it for that , they use it as a payback or out of sheer anger. That is when it's best to step back until you gain control of your feelings and then spank with love and direction. God Bless.

Answer 10

I spank all my g/f's regardless of age. The last girl I dated was 13 and she was really into it...pigtails...little skirts...the whole deal.

I would say if you're in a serious relationship, then it's OK. If it's just casual with your 12 year old then I wouldn't do it.

Do they spank you? Or is it just a one way street?

Answer 11

Generally speaking, I personally feel, yes it's too old; however, it depends on each individual child too. Sometimes nothing seems to get through better than a few well placed smacks on the backside.... I got my last spanking when I was 14....