Do i go for the guy who is my age,16, or for the guy who is 3 yrs. older than me. the older guy, we've hug out a few times, and we talk on the phone and text each other, we tell each other that we miss each other. but the 16 yr. old, we've hung out more, and we've gone swimming together a few times, he asked me what i consider us, and i told him idk. i asked him, and he said pretty close to gf & bf, but we haven't done anything like 2 weeks, and i've hung out with the older guy since. which one shoud i go for? and even if the 16 yr. old and me r dateing would thid be called cheating?
2006-08-07
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Janha S
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➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should ask yourself who you like hanging out with more and then it will be clearer to you which one you should go with..it wouldnt be cheating if you hang out with the guy you dont go out with. just like no kissing and whatnot
2006-08-07 04:50:52
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answered by Anonymous
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I would roll with the 16 yr old. What else would a 19 yr old want from a 16 yr old??? He just wants to hit it... If u must hang with the older guy, just be friends. Even that can be dangerous b/c all he has to do is say the right things at the right time and then he gets some and you'll really see his true colors. My advice to any female especially ur age is not give him any, and enjoy his company... go out to eat, watch a movie. did i mention that he's way too old for u???
2006-08-07 04:49:06
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answered by Muchacha Mala 2
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Stay away from the older guy. You've got much more in common with the younger guy, The older guy is already old enough to vote!
Also, you are too young to have a BF. Find a few other guys you like to go on dates with. Don't be so available to just one boy. The best way to grow up AND experience life is by meeting lots of different people. That means not going steady, but having a few boyfriends. So, have AT LEAST three boyfriends, and dump that nineteen year old. You aren't ready to start dating adults, till YOU are an adult.
Hope this helped.
2006-08-07 04:45:01
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answered by Victor C 3
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really you just have to follow your heart. since it sounds like you are 16 (because you said the 16yr old is your age) I wouldn't go for the older guy only because you can get him in trouble... or the both of you. it would make him 19? if you did anything that would be called statutory rape. Sorry to say so. I don't know if you plan on having sex... but you are young, happy, be free and either stay with the 16 yr old or go without either. Find who you are. You sound like a smart girl. just follow your heart.
2006-08-07 04:49:52
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answered by Anonymous
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16 yr. old. If you date the older guy while dating the 16 yr. old guy, I would call it cheating, but if you and the older guy just hang out as friends, there wouldn't be any cheating involved. You should still tell the 16 yr. old guy about the older guy. Hope that's not too confusing.
2006-08-07 04:46:35
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answered by Anonymous
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i would go for the 16 yr old guy, coz the 19 yr old is older and maybe he will go off with someone else, coz at 19 u are still looking to have experiences with other girl. after a while he may say u are too imature or something like that. with the 16 yr old u have a bi more in common and he is unlikely to go off with anyone else.
2006-08-07 04:47:34
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answered by rocky 3
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stay with the guy thats closer to your age if you reall care about the guy who is three years older wich puts him at 19 and you're 16...he can get into a grip of trouble if someone decides to say something about him being with you. If he cares for you he will wait till your 18.
In that time ..you should also try to do some growing up.
2006-08-07 04:46:47
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answered by Jason C 1
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He's 19 and you're 16...there's a law called statutory rape. Be careful when going out with guys that are older and fall into that. Stick with the guy your age cause it won't complicate things. If you're not sure about the guy who is your age then just talk to him and figure if you even want to be with him. Good luck.
2006-08-07 04:50:17
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answered by xx_kittymeow_xx 1
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At 16, you really shouldn't confine yourself to one person. You should worry about more important things. If you are allowed to date, then hang out with guys as friends, but don't be so serious with them. And no hanging out with the other guy is not "cheating." Just have fun and enjoy being young. If you try to have adult relationships that you're not ready for, you might end up with a broken heart or worse.
2006-08-07 04:46:45
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answered by Lindsay M 5
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If you go for the guy who is older than you, you will actually be risking him becoming labled as a child molester and/or sexual preditor. If you really care for the nineteen year old you wouldn't put him in that type of situation. If the sixteen year old says you're close to being bf & gf then call him. What are you waiting for?
2006-08-07 04:48:50
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answered by Coo coo achoo 6
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It is your decision. Personally, I would go for the guy your age, unless you are into a quick-moving relationship. Generally older guys are more experienced, and move along a lot quicker than a guy your age. It all depends on what you want out of the relationship. It would not be cheating unless you are actually dating someone...that again, is your decision.
Hope I helped,
Chris
2006-08-07 04:46:12
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answered by Chris 1
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