im 20 years old. and i met this girl at a party. we have been dating for 7 months and i really like her. well i found out the other day that she was only 14. we havent had sex so im not woried about legal rammifications, but what should i do. leave her. talk about it with her. im confused!
2006-08-07 04:35:37 · 42 answers · asked by mighty_tounge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes she looked a lot older!
2006-08-07 05:09:41 · update #1
If you really want to be with her get to know her and her parents you know just take it easy. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 21 and we did it that way so we could be together.... Also explain to her that trust is important..... There really isn't nothing to worry about and if nothing else just wait on her until she comes of age.... God bless you.......Jacqueline
2006-08-07 04:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by cowgirl16 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is there to be confused about if ur a grown a$$ man and she's not even legal.. u need to cut ties w/her and move on .. tell her she needs to find someone her own age, let her know that u and her can't do anything for each other that would be LEGAL.. let her know that she has her whole life ahead of her and that u would be taking ADVANTAGE OF HER if u tried to continue a relaitonship w/her.. it's not what she wants either.. would u want a 20 yr old man dating ur 14 yr old daughter or sister???
don't be a pervert or a child molestor... move on to someone ur own age who can handle the rammifications of an adult relationship...
u need to leave her and giver her a chance to grow up
2006-08-07 04:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry that you were into this girl and found out she was really really young. You definitely need to stop seeing her though. Of course talk to her and tell her why you don't want to see her anymore, which in my opinion should be for two reasons 1) she's 14 and you are 20 and 2) she completely lied to you. One thing I have learned, you can't have a relationship when it starts with a lie. Good luck!
2006-08-07 04:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your anger, I would be upset too if someone lied to me and I was told they were one age and found out it was another. although there are two sides to every story. I am not sure how you found out but if it were before I did anything I would get a second opinion or you should talk to the girl your are dating, let he know you found it out and you want to know what is going on, if she does not know your feelings then you will be angry and it could be anger for nothing. talking to her would the best thing at this point since it seems you are confused about what is going on. Don't use angry tones with her because it won't make the conversation between you and her a civilized one. hope this helps.
2006-08-07 04:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. In most states, even if you have consentual sex it's called STATUTORY RAPE.
The problem foremost is that she lied to you. If someone starts off the relationship lying, then that's what you will have to look forward to for the duration of it.
Not to mention, what are you gonna say when you meet her parents? Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know she was 14 and by the time i found out it was too late because we developed feelings?
I feel bad for you though. I know of plenty of men that meet a girl and later find out she is under age.
Right now, you are in the clear if you stopp seeing her. But if you continue it will only get worse.
Diva
2006-08-07 05:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her parents and tell them what she has been telling you, and probably other guys,too. This girl is headed for trouble, so , NO - you don't want to talk it out, or anything. RUN ! You sound like a decent guy, so go find someone your age, that you can trust. Good for you that you weren't having sex with her, that would have only compounded the problem, and been harder for you to make a clean break.
2006-08-07 04:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by mom24athome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her definetly. 14 will get you into some trouble if she's already out parting and getting with a guy that is 20. You can find someone your own age and leave that little girl alone.
2006-08-07 04:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by hellrazor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG were you like constantly high or drunk or something how could you not recognize a 14 yr old from someone your age o and just leave her before anything happens that can end up putting you into jail just good luck on however you hadle this situation.....14??? GOSH
2006-08-07 04:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by sexii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. thats bad.. but, you need to make the decision for yourself. i know its gross cause she is so young, but if you really like her, you may be able to work things out. there are people with a lot more years then that between them that get married every day. i have a friend that is now 23 and his girlfriend is 17... they have been dating since she was 15 and they love each other more then anything so i believe it can work. just be careful
2006-08-07 04:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by sarah k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, steer clear of her! She might end up blackmailing you, with people these days, how can you tell who is out to get a lawsuit? She could end up having sex with you, then go run and cry that she was raped, and guess what? People will believe her! No one will believe what YOU say. Sounds like she is jail bait to like the 100th degree. And if she asks why you are avoiding her, tell her flat out: "YOU ARE TOO YOUNG FOR ME".
2006-08-07 04:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell away from her. what is wrong with your eyes??? can't you see someone's age in their face and eyes??? Give it a rest, buddy, you knew something was amiss from the start. Get away, you are breaking the law, sex or not. I pity you if she gets mad...all she has to say is that you had sex with her, or worse, forced yourself on her...it is all over for you...you will meet bubba and the gang in jail. You need to see her parents, talk to them, assure them that nothing has happened, and that you had no idea of her age...then get the hell out of her life for good. Good luck
2006-08-07 04:40:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋