ok, so ive been dating him for like 5 months...almost....but regardless. im absolutely crazycrazy about him. but im 17 and i know that i dont know what love is and i refuse to believe that neone our age does. i also think that he's getting attached to me in a bad way. like yeah, we're attached, but friends say that w/ previous g/f he's had, he gets too attached and when they break up he takes it way too badly. i also just want to have fun. we're in high school. i dont want anything super serious. im not a serious person. im hyper and annoying to a lot of ppl and crazy and loud and my goal i this life is to have fun. now he tells me that he was meant to love me and that he needs me. im scared. terified. thats dependance. im not dependable. at all. at all all. i have to tell him that he cant say that to me b/ while it feels real and i almost feel that way, too, it would be a lie. i need to tell him that we cant be serious in that way b/ thats not what we can have.......but how?
2006-08-07 04:29:30 · 3 answers · asked by myra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you're not ready for that type of relationship yet. If he can't accept that, then that's his issue. Just make sure you do it in a public place and lay low for a while, or travel with a few friends constantly for about 2 months b/c it sounds like he might be a little psycho.
2006-08-07 04:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dope boy magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy (GIRL!!) you did a really good job in your question. You explained it very well, (yours is a very mature postion by the way--congratulations!!!!)
You can tell him just what you told us. If he can't receive the message you need to say something along the lines of, "This relationship has to be a two way street where we respect and honor each other. You aren't doing that by insisting that I adopt your postion (of much more attachment that I'm ready for). I will not do that and will not see nor communicate with you if you do not honor my wishes."
And then do whatever you need to do based on what he does.
Good for you.
2006-08-07 04:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your alone just tell him everything you said here. guys mature slower then girls so he might not understand.
2006-08-07 04:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Adam B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋