I have no idea what to do right now. I met this guy a year ago, we dated for a bit, then he decided to stop calling. About a month went by, and I just got this urge to call him and we ended up starting to hang out again. Eventually we took on the boyfriend/girlfriend title, and I ended up losing my virginity to him. He would still pull the not return my phone call thing every once in awhile when he got mad at me (which was usually the result of jealousy). But overall I was really happy with him. Then out of the blue he stopped calling, emailing, seeing me. He never even broke up with me. It had been 9 months since I heard from him, then yesterday there was a message from him on my myspace page and all it had was his phone number. Do I call him? If I do what do I say? He really hurt me, I haven't really dated since, does that mean what I had with him is worth forgiving, or am I just tied to him because of losing my virginity and being unable to start any other relationships?
2006-08-07 04:27:19 · 6 answers · asked by Legolas' Lover 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't even respond. Leave him alone and move on with your life. I had a man who did that to me once and sooner or later the shoe will be on the other foot. You will always have a tie to him because he was your first. I'm 44 yrs. old and still blush when I think of my first time. You need to understand that this will get easier as time goes by with NO contact with him. Eventually, you will be able to run into him somewhere and have absolutely no pain at all. The way he treated you is, unfortunately, a fact of life. Way back when I was young, it was that way and probably has been since the beginning of time. Take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Do not let anyone use you in the future and remember that there is someone better out there. Take your time in finding him.
2006-08-07 04:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend that you take him back, so you should not call him. There are legitimate reasons he might have backed off, but it sounds like that's not the case here. He was probably using you. I think you're just tied to him because you lost your virginity to him. That bond would be a good thing, if only you could trust him. But he does not sound very trustworthy, nor does he sound very interested in you. He should have come out with the truth and just broke up with you. Girls do stuff like that too, but that's no excuse for this guy. Good luck with the next one!
2006-08-07 04:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother calling him, unless you want to be used again.
2006-08-07 04:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't call i'd write and ask him what happen. then after he answered i wouldn't write back
2006-08-07 04:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u don't ever wanna talk to him again and MOVE ON!
2006-08-07 04:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call him...find someone who deserves you...Good Luck!!
2006-08-07 04:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by lissad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋