I have been dating this guy for almost a year. He stares at other woman so much that we have gotten into many fights. I'm not talking about a look or whatever I'm talking staring for long periods of time. When we fight he gets very defensive and blames me for being insane insecure, whatever. Well, after many fights it just came out that he needs to make eye contact with other girls to make himself feel better. Now, when I'm not in a relationship I use eye contact in an effort to flirt. So, basically he flirts with other girls through eye contact everytime we go out.
He almost had me believing that it's me and that I'm crazy. But, now that he was honest with me I understand better.
My question is this. Would you stay in a relationship like this knowing that your significant other is doing this? If it's just eye contact and a smile is this a sign he will cheat? A guys reaction would be very helpful.
2006-08-07 04:26:29 · 14 answers · asked by lalalalalala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as hes not acting on anything then why does it matter?
The thought im gonna throw out there is this: If it really bothers you this much and he knows this, then if he loves you enough he should be willing to stop. you should be all he needs to make him feel better
If hes not willing to honor your request and save your feelings for such an insignificant detail that wont hurt him if hes not able to do it, then hes not worth being with. Its true that look but dont touch is completely legitimate, but if it bothers you and hes not willing to do anything about it, then hes disregarding your feelings and you should leave him
Im a guy by the way
2006-08-07 04:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by sexydp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His ogling of other women is disrespectful and you know it. This could eventually lower your self-esteem because you may start to question your own appeal. No, I would not be able to stay in a relationship knowing that he is doing this. He still may not being honest with you. You don't know if it stops at eye contact. If he does this in your presence, there's no telling what he does when you aren't around. Yes it is a sign that he will cheat. Be careful and don't accept less than you know you deserve. You deserve to treated like a lady and treated with the utmost respect.
2006-08-07 04:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first.........how is your relationship otherwise? Do you see yourself married to this guy?
Keep this mind.....weather you are there or not...90% of flirt is innocent. I personally am married, and love my wife dearly. She is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. That doesn't mean I don't find other women attractive. Sure it makes me feel good to still have a woman throw a glance my way or check me out. And I admit, when I am out with friends or driving down the road, I still check out other women. Women are very sexy, and most guys just enjoy looking at women.
Your boyfriend is probably getting to the point in your relationship that he is thinking about where it is going. Is he going to marry you or should he get out. One way or the other, he should have the respect to not stare while you are there. He should know that it bothers you and not do it in your presence. Him flirting does not mean he will cheat. NOT AT ALL.
If you want, start checking out other guys with him around, see how he reacts. I bet he get defensive about and it will start a fight, but you will have plenty of ammunition to fire back with.
Talk to him about it, ask him if he thinks you guys are going somewhere or not. If he says yes, then you need to tell him how you feel about it. If he cares for you and really wants to be with you he will fix the problem on his own. If not, he is not committed to you and you should break it off with him.
2006-08-07 04:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me, that is bad. Just looking at people is okay.. but making eye contact? Maybe you should start making eye contact with other guys...
2016-03-27 02:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q:Would you stay in a relationship like this knowing that your significant other is doing this? If it's just eye contact and a smile is this a sign he will cheat?
A:I personally wouldn't. That just sounds bad. But if he had any brains and planned to cheat, he'd be VERY withdrawn from other women. Kind of the sneak attack? I dunno... That's what makes sense to me. But maybe hes the sloppy type in that aspect?
2006-08-07 04:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and i think that that is very disrespectful to do that to you. i say try doing it to him and if he gets mad then tell him to stop doing it to you and if he doesn't care then maybe it's time to start really looking for some one else. if he knows it really bothers you. he should just stop. it almost sounds like he is always trying to find some thing better. sorry your going threw this i hope it works out.
2006-08-07 04:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was doing that I would feel like I already was cheating. It is flirting, and if my gf was doing that, and she knew it bugged me, and she still wouldn't stop, then I would not stay in the relationship.
2006-08-07 04:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by FM?FU! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously.. if he has to look at other girls to make himself feel better and not look at you, then hes not a real man, if he commits to you and makes like hes flirting with other girls... hes a moron. Plain and simple.
2006-08-07 04:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by surf_jayme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the dork!
2006-08-07 04:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by grizzly_r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he was doing was looking right? It's not he was having sex with them. Grow up u can't control everything he looks at.
2006-08-07 04:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Biggz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋