when i finger my girlfriend it hurts her. Somtimes when im in her but it always hurts her after for a couple of days. Shes thinking about not wanting to do it anymore because i hurt her more then i give her pleasure. Shes a small girl so shes tight. Even when she was really wet i couldnt but two fingers in. Is there any ways to make it not hurt her. Positions? Lube? Anything else? HELP!! I like doing it to her when it gives her pleasure but im not very good at it because weve only done it like 6 or 7 times and ive never done it before that. and shes never fingered herself so she doesnt know wat she likes. And idk wat gets her horny because she doesnt know either. Help i need major advice!
2006-08-07 04:16:02 · 18 answers · asked by cold_killa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i want to use my tongue but she thinks were to young to do oral
2006-08-07 05:19:58 · update #1
Perhaps u shouldnt finger her... Why dont you try just playing with her clit... This way its all pleasure and no pain... Maybe she just doesnt like penetration.
2006-08-07 04:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by dshivonne 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop trusting your finger so fast and don't try to go all the way up there, i know kiss her you know what and then turn her on her back and start liking her butt, then lik her u know what that'll get her to have a waterfall
2006-08-07 11:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain buddy.
I have a girl friend who i have dated for like 3 years and we have only tried intercourse like once, because it hurts her too much.
At least it sounds like your girlfriend wants to be able to do this.
I would try a vaginal dilator or even go to the toystore and buy a dildo made for anal sex beginners.
Also you can check out www.vaginisimus.com for more advice.
2006-08-07 11:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by sven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I have to put my 2 cents in and say if she is your gf you should be taking cold showers instead! If you are not ready for a marital commitment you are not ready for a sexual commitment.
Second, She needs to rexlax, that is the only way it won't hurt
2006-08-07 11:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by isellpc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just start with one finger and be very gentle lots of lube don't ram it into her and make sure your fingernails are trimmed and filed that might be hurting her
2006-08-07 11:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by byoung212121 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are ur nails sharp
are u cutting her cuz that is painful
or maybe ur being too rough
try 2 be a lil more gentle
2006-08-07 11:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by bs_chica_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bust her hole open like a cassabba melon. You'll enjoy it, and eventually she'll stretch to accomodate you. Make sure she is extra wet first, you might want to use lube.
2006-08-07 11:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well if she is to tight then you shouldnt be fingering her at all....you might make it so she isnt able to have children up the road with fingering her the wrong way
2006-08-07 14:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by justmealmn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mosturize your own finger during the day. my boyfriend hurts me too, and we found out later that he has dry scrachy finger.
2006-08-07 11:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by musi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just experiment. Use lots of lubrication and don't be too rough with her.
2006-08-07 11:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋