i have been seeing this guy for about a month now and we arent even offically dating. and the other night we were hanging out and then we started to make out witch is fine, i dont care but then he started to put his hand down my pants and i said "not yet" and he stopped but i just dont like how hes pressuring me already in this relationship...i like him and when i say to stop he does...but im afraid im going to want to wait longer to do things then he does...any ideas???
2006-08-07 04:14:31 · 9 answers · asked by jojo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your very smart to tell him to stop before your ready and he's a nice guy to listen to you. Since your not in a relatinoship with this guy you want to be very careful he's interested in more than one thing. Be honest with him, tell him you really like hiim but you think things are moving too fast and that you feel doing anything more than making out will put you into a very uncomfortable situation. I'm sure he will understand and be patient. Good luck!
2006-08-07 04:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The thing that you can do is tell him how you feel about that, if he understands then it would be any problem on his part, you have to let him know what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with, if you feel as if he will feel differently about telling " not yet" then you don't to worry because you were nice about it and you want to take things slow. Most guys are understanding, if he is this type then will understand and not want to pursue this anymore until you are ready in which they will ask you.You are doing the right thing. Hope this helps
2006-08-07 11:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight out that you are not be rushed into anything. If he cares about you, he will accept that and not pressure you. The fact that he stopped when you said "not yet" is a good sign, but you need to be really clear about this with him.
2006-08-07 11:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your decision not to go any further. I give you props for saying No!
1. Guys are just in it for sex.
2. If he is not willing to wait, he is not worth your time.
3. When a guy truly cares for a girl, he will give her space in this matter and wait until she is ready.
Most women now a days let guys walk all over them. That is why soo many women are lonely, depressed, not respected, or cared about.
The women who has confidence in herself, gains confidence of others!
2006-08-07 11:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and let him know that-that's not what ur about.. let him know just cause ur making out that-that's not an advancement to next base.. let him know it's making u feel very uncomfortable...
also u should maybe stop making out w/him all the time.. u should be able to find other things to do then making out which is just gonna get him horny.. he'll think ur being a tease..
have this convo w/him asap before it gets out of hand..
2006-08-07 11:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from your story it sounds like your boyfriend isn't pressuring you at all. If he stops when you tell him, then he's not pressuring you. However, if you want to wait and he isn't willing to, break up!
2006-08-07 11:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel a discussion with him on how you feel will eliminate the pressure you feel. It will be up to him to decide after you let him know how you feel if he wants to stick around.
2006-08-07 11:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make out with him he wont try to put his hands in your pants if oyu dont turn him on
2006-08-07 11:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by mystico6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
females they never will get it.
teaser-
why do you think he is with you.
all you are doing is postponing the inevitable
2006-08-07 11:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by coolman_nycity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋