Sexual addictions?

Question

I had my first sexual encounter at 14 she was 27. My view of women ever since has been as sex objects. Porn caused my divorce with the on;y woman I have ever loved. I want to help other men who have sexual addictions so that I may help save their marriages and potentionaly their future. how can I help others?

Answer 1

Go to a Sex Addicts Annonymous meeting. Telling your story to other addicts could help them...

Answer 2

First you can be an advocate on sexual addictions. You can answer questions in that section if you are truly healing. You cannot be any help should your problem be out of control. You can use your testimony of divorce. You can talk to others who have been through this as well but be careful not to get drawn into it again. Try to be understanding; the pain it can cause a person. Specifically the pain of divorce, having sex resulting in unwanted pregnancy, std's, adultury, murders, hatred, rapes, embarassment, & terrible child pornography, kidnappings, ect. Those topics can come up alot especially in teenagers. Be an advocate so young are not preyed upon. Thanks. Porn is a money making scheme. Research some other scams turned to an addiction, like gambling and how it can shatter a couple's marriage.

Answer 3

Have you overcome your addiction? You are not going to be any help unless you have overcome the practice. This is a perfect example of how sin can boomerang on you. It sounds like you learned a hard lesson. remember this verse the next time you want to sin. Numbers 32:23 and Galatians 5:6,7. First, thing you can tell is don't follow the examples set by the immorality of this country. This country doesn't follow good moral habits, and too many people fall victim. Second, is that many people have scoffed at the Bible, only to get taught a tough lesson. This is a paramount issue and one too many people take lightly. Obviously your first encounter warped your thinking, that can't be helped, but you stop more problems from arising by obeying the moral laws set up by God.

Answer 4

Self Castration a little too far for you? Trying to save other people marriges because of extra-marital-sexual addiction? By that time if one partner has found out and has strong trust issues, the marrige is probably not salvageable.
Best of luck, Couples/marital counseling? What ever you do forcing religion on them probably won't work. Sex maybe a physiological addiction, like alcoholism. There are addictions counselors, for just about every addiction.

Answer 5

Be a role model.

One partial cause of your own problem may have been a lack of involvement on the part of your father. If your father lived a moral life, and told you to do likewise, you might have thought twice before doing what you did at age 14.

Get involved with boys programs! There's Boy Scouts, and lots of church programs available. With the high rate of father absenteeism, boys are growing up without moral guidance.

Because there are WAY too many fathers missing out there, the lack of moral guidance is resulting in tragic consequences for American families. Divorce rates, domestic violence, school violence, gang activity, and drug use can all be at least partially attributed to a lack of a positive father figure in the home.

Having a God-fearing role model can make a HUGE difference in a boy's future decision making skills, so get involved!

Answer 6

Its commendable that you have chosen to be open about your life! I was addicted to porn too at one point of my life. It had become a ritual of sorts to watch porn. Most times I wasn't being aroused by it too, but I watched it none the less. My addiction was detrimental to my sex life with my steady girlfriend. It was then that I realized the problem. I have never watched porn since that day!

I am happy now & I am glad I took the decision.

Answer 7

Well good for you, that you want to help others, with this same addiction.......Maybe, if you just told them this, it may help........Okay, here goes.....Unless, the person, is on drugs, and that drug is whats, turning them, into Sex-Addicts, than, their only way of getting help, (of course, is get drug-Free), however, for the others, that aren't addicted, to drugs, think of it this way..If you quit watching "Over-rated-Porn" this whole sex-thing, is really just a 2-3, minute, high....And even those, who are in those porn flicks, get tired of sex.!!! So, its very "Over-Rated" and beleive me, I've seen the talk shows, these, women, get tired of the "Vultures" out there, staring at them, so much, some of them , completely get out of the business, and want to get completely away from men, all together!!! For awhile anyway, at least long enough to get there reputation restored back, to a good one,again....... It all depends upon the men, and how much they put, this, out there, to be "Bigger" than it really is, and I bet if you told them, that half those, Women, dont even have orgasms, that they fake it for the money......... They quit watching them. Good-Luck, with what your doing....Hope I was of some help, for you, for them.........

Answer 8

Start with yourself, then carefully offer to be a friend and introduce the discussion slowly focusing on your own story. Keep religion and preaching out of it.

Answer 9

Find Stephen P. Linnen in Columbus, Ohio. He is a bonafide sex addict who got so bad he lost his law license, got public "exposure", etc.

Answer 10

The best cure for sex addiction is jail and lots of it.