OMG, I just learned that my bf of 4 years, formaly was abusive to other girlfriends of his, I dont know what to do, I know it is not a rumor because I talked to one of the girls, but he is sooooo good to me and he has never even put a hand on me, should I leave him??? or see how things go???
2006-08-07 03:53:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay but don't let your guard down. He might just be waiting for something that symbolizes commitment and then start saying that you belong to him which may lead to being abusive actions. I suggest you stay and give him a chance but beware of your surroundings and if anything seems like its triggering any abusive behavior leave!!
Also talk to him in a calm way and let him know what you've heard. If he comes out with the truth then thats a good sign but if you know he is lying then that might show that he hasn't changed but something hasn't pulled the trigger just yet for him to be abusive
Good luck
2006-08-07 04:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 3⤋
Take it easy....and be open and hoenst with Mr Perfect about the things you have been hearing. If its in his past and something that he never even though about while he is with you then he will have no problem telling you just that. Remember people change...and can learn from their mistakes. I say ask him about what you've been hearing. Honesty is your best policy.....then you can make a logical decision based on pure fact and truth not on something you have heard. Good luck!!
2006-08-07 11:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by ckrystil86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much u trust him! Some people can change while others can't, if u think he is changing for the better great. IF u see the rage in his eyes run like hell. The question to u is, "how long are u gonna be able to live with the fear that he "might" someday hurt you?" DO u want to torture urself or find someone else? Its up to you!!
2006-08-07 11:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just see how things go. I mean, if he hasn't hit you in the four years that ya'll have been together.. Like you said, that whole thing about him hitting his ex-girlfriends could just be a rumor.
2006-08-07 10:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "If there's anything I hate more, it's a man, no a boy, that puts his hands on a woman. Give subtle hints that you are not taking that $#!+. No woman deserves that, and a REAL gentleman will never strike a lady. "
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-07 11:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be on the safe side you should leave him, if someone has a history of abuse, they are likely to continue to pattern, you should talk to him about, see if he got counseling for him, you dont want to find out later when your in the hospital with a broken nose and two cracked ribs
2006-08-07 10:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If he hasn't abused you in 4 years, thats a pretty good sign, that he won't. So I would stay with him, Unless there are warnings that he has this evil streak in his blood.
2006-08-07 10:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by ۞ JønaŦhan ۞ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has never laid a hand on you in four years then you should consider that he may have changed. you should confront him with what you know and see what happens. if he ever gets violent with you then you should get out and never look back. good luck and i hope that things go well for you.
2006-08-07 10:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, just make sure you always be ready just in case. You don't have to leave but make sure youg get out if he gets or even tries to get abusive toward you.
2006-08-07 10:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why listen to an ex who probably wants nothing more than to sabotage him? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
2006-08-07 11:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋