Im 22 and I have a boyfriend of 1 year. I was thinking about suggesting we get each other promise rings sometime but is that something for younger kids? My boyfriend is 29. My sister and her boyfriend have them and I think they are really nice to have but they wear them on their left hand so everyone thinks they are married. I wouldnt want that but do you think its ok to have promise rings and wear them on another finger. What do you think?
2006-08-07 03:48:12 · 24 answers · asked by breeokc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mr. Chivalry says, "Before we got married, my wife bought me a ring for Christmas. When we got engaged, I put it on the left ring finger. I did it because it was a symbol to me. I didn't do it because I was looking for anyone else's approval. If you want to do it, do it. Let it be your own symbol. If it makes you happy and it makes you feel a deep connection with your companion, then go for it. Good luck to you."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-07 03:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I wear promise rings. We got them after we had been dating for two years. We both wanted to show that we are committed to each other without getting married because we were only 18 years old. So we decide that a promise ring would be a good idea. We wear them on our right hand ring fingers because I didn't want anyone to ask if I was married or think I was engaged. He wears a solid band and I wear a diamond solitaire. I love the idea, its a big step without having to get married. We have now been dating for 4 years and have been happy with our relationship. I think that it is a good idea just talk to your boyfriend about how much it would mean to you.
2006-08-07 11:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 29 year old man wearing a promise ring is a little silly. If you two love each other and enjoy being together, you no more need a ring than you do a marriage. Your actions and affection should be enouhg to tell the world that you are together--and if you desire something a little more symbolic, is an actual engagement out of the question?
2006-08-07 10:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jonny Doom™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have promise rings, I think that anyone can have them. They're a nice way to show affection but not too much commitment (u know as far as marriage goes). I was the one that asked to get them i wear mine on my right ring finger. So no one thinks we're married but it does show significance towards each other. I say go for it!
2006-08-07 10:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by hunniebun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend gave me a promise ring about a month after we started dating. I don't think that it is something for " younger people ". It's a sign that each other has promised to stay true to that one person.
2006-08-07 10:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a promise ring is not appropriate for older relationships..I would think an engagement ring is their first step at that point...and a promise ring is for those young bf/gf relationships that want a next step but are not mature enough for a marriage proposal.
2006-08-07 10:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had promise rings. He was saving up for my engagement ring and we wanted a way to show our commitment for each other. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. We just got simple silver matching rings and wore them. It really meant a lot to both of us.
2006-08-07 10:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may do what you like.
Perhaps he wants to marry you and is intimidated by the "two months' salary" rot that is being pushed by jewelers about engagement rings.
Spend about $100 apiece on them and get them engraved, "I love you. (SO's name here)" Wear them on the ring fingers of your right hand.
You don't have to tell anybody it's a "promise ring" to you. Just smile and say "it's something from my boyfriend."
2006-08-07 10:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the old Polish custom - they get wedding bands and wear them on their left hand before the wedding and on the right hand after.
It's not at all inappropriate to let it look like you're married, because engagement means you are at least spiritually husband and wife in all things except the wedding ceremony and cohabitation(*).
And in some countries (e.g. Korea), it is apparently even possible to be legally engaged. If it's not possible in your country, you can always have a short civil wedding when you get engaged, and then if you are so inclined, a religious wedding when you're ready to move in together :>
2006-08-07 11:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think promise rings can be good and can be bad. Bad because if you trust me and believe that I feel the way I claim I do what is a ring in this relationship . I feel that their good because it symbolizes that you and your partner have that mutual agreement.
2006-08-07 11:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋