How can i lure him 2wards my heart instead of my panties?

Question

I feel like my relationship with my man is lustful, coz i asked him if he could wait to do it, and he said that he couldn't. We've only been 2gether 4 a couple of weeks and i usually wait months b4 i put it out (4 months at the least). We haven't evn said the L word to each other yet. I really like him bt i don't see us heading towards the right direction.

Answer 1

if he says he cant wait then why are you still with him its obvious he's after one thing and one thing only and it's nowhere near your heart you need to get rid of him because if he doesnt respect you enough to wait he's not worth it

Answer 2

Love your picture. Anyway on to the question, If you are not ready to have sex with him yet, then let him know that, tell him that you would like to get to know him a little better before the two of you become intimate. If he is a real man then he should respect your point of view and he should even be more turned on about the anticipation of getting a chance to get a taste of such of lovely women.
There is nothing wrong with lust that's awesome, when I met my boyfriend we had only been dating 4 weeks before we hooked up because of all the lust, and when we did it was great, we hadn't said I love you yet but I had no problems with giving it to him because I knew that he would be still be around afterwards, and he was for several years. So that is something you have to judge for yourself.

Answer 3

Wow..I basically asked the same question a few minutes ago. I guess I am not the only one. Have you thought about the L word? My mom always told me that the panties and the heart are connected....men need sex to fall in love. But how do you know if he is connecting with you or if he just wants the sex?? Good question....the thing to do is walk away if you are feeling this way..if he really wants you he will come back...that's the advice I am supposed to give but I can't even take my own advice...Good luck

Answer 4

well if u give it up to him just cause he said he can't wait then theres' ur problem right there.. if he tells u to jump off a bldg will u jump?? this is not about what he wants, this should be about what u want.. if u wanna wait then wait.. given in to him sooner then u'd like to will only hurt ur relationship if it's even called that.. exactly what do u know about him? don't violate ur rule to please him.. he can wait, he just don't want to and he's obviously testing u.. if u make him wait what he gonna do?? go find somebody else?? and if so then he didn't like u to begin with...

u said it urself u and him haven't even said the L word.. stop giving it to him or don't give it to him yet.. because if u have already and now u wanna stop he's gonna start acting ugly.. he's not seeing it as a big deal..

u and him should've discussed this in great length why ur not ready to sleep w/him.. but stop volunteering ur rule.. that's ur rule, which means that u don't have to go broadcasting it to everybody..

good luck

Answer 5

If you feel that it is going nowhere then maybe it is going nowhere, you know what feels right for you and he should respect that. Waiting for the L word is like waiting for taxi in NY on rush hour it would come but you don't know when, its hard for guys to say that word and I know how that word is important but there are times let them just show you and wait a while but don't wait forever. I guess talk to him and tell him what you feel if his not down with it then find someone else.

Answer 6

Lady, this man will leave you after he's had enough if you know what I mean... best way to see if he loves you is to wait and if he gets impatient tell him this :"go jack off in the shower !!! I'm not your slut... after all I've done for you I expect a little of romance from you you pervert!!! GET OUT!!!". Kinda extreme but if you say it quick to him you won't get hurt through this relation. If he is really a good guy, the stick to him.... Best of luck to you ; I think lure is a kinda weak word

Answer 7

What is so magical about waiting for 4 months? Do you feel any less used when things don't work out? You already know that this relationship is not the right one for you. Follow your instincts.

Answer 8

You need to make sure you two are on the same page. Ask him what he wants out of this relationship. And tell him what you want. Don't be afraid to throw it out to him. If he agrees then he is not trying to get into your panties. Oh and tell him the 411 about your panties.Don't be ashamed. It's how you work. But keep your eyes open because he may just stick around to get into them. Make it hard for him to get them.

Answer 9

He is in the right direction, we men like the sex part more than anything else, if you want more than that, you have to Analise your partner to find out if you are the partner he is looking for. My advice is that you shouldn't have great expectations just because you have intercourse, that doesn't have the same meaning for men and women. There is no formula of how you can win his heart, I chose my partner based in how do I feel with her out of bed, she may excel in bed but she May be too demanding, or too pushy, and she may have interests totally different than mine, if sex is the only aspect that we have chemistry, so be it!!!

Answer 10

Then kick him to the curve. I think since he can't wait that is a sign that he is just after you for sex. Don't break your rule for a guy who might later turn out to be an asshole. I can tell that his main interest is himself and his self-gratification. with that being said, he probably is not that good in bed. selfish people are usually not