Is there a mental illness associated with...?

Question

...getting severely anxious/depressed when seeing attractive young females?

I can supply more details if needed.

more details:

I apologize and feel stupid: I am a male, despite my avatar. My age is in the mid-30s.

I haven't had a date in at least 4 years, or any intimate contact with a female in around 8 years.

I would be moderately attractive if I was of average weight, but unfortunately I'm overweight, thus I'm very unattractive, though not ugly (I consider myself a 3 on the 1-10 scale).

In response to:
> Not really. It's about being content and
> comfortable with who you are.

I definitely do not feel content or comfortable with my looks.

> Your details don't supply enough
> information...

I never know what details are pertinent... sorry. I hope what I'm adding here helps a little.

> if you're a guy and the sight of females
> makes you anxious/depressed... I think
> that may be excitement or the thought
> that they are unattainable.

I agree; definitely on the excitement, but I would replace "thought that they are unattainable" with "fact that...".

Also... I recently (6 days ago) moved from a small town where I got my M.S. degree (in math) this May to a larger town with a very large university to start work on my Ph.D. degree (also in math). This university is over 60% female, and the girls here are much more attractive (beautiful) than anywhere else I have lived. Thus I'm noticing my anxiety/depression much more often than I ever have, and I know it will get worse when classes start.

Finally, I want to emphasize that my anxiety/depression happens only when I see attractive young females; not when I see unattractive young females, or older females (attractive or not), and definitely not when I see males.

Answer 1

Not really. It's about being content and comfortable with who you are. Your details don't supply enough information... if you're a guy and the sight of females makes you anxious/depressed... I think that may be excitement or the thought that they are unattainable. If female and you have these thoughts or feelings- it may mean that you feel "challenged" by them or inferior to them... Either way- I don't see a "mental illness" that could be attributed to these circumstances.

Answer 2

yes its called lack of self esteem....or frustration. you dont need a doctor though, ask your freinds to help you with a make over, go out and but some pretty flattering clothes for your figure shape, get your hair styled and cut, maybe coloured, if you have anyone that can help you in this maybe get involved in a group that runs these types of sessions, you might even make a few friends there.

Just because you have low self esteem it doent mean that you arent beautiful, you need to remember that all people have an inner beauty that shines out like a beacon if only they allow themselves to see it, be yourself, anyone would love you just for having the courage to do that.

Good luck its not an easy road to travel. :D hugs xxx

Answer 3

Please supply more details. Email me and we can talk. I think I know what might be happening.