We have been talking extensively about my ex-boyfriends and my relationship with them. Is this a good idea? My thoughts are that this might somehow sabatoge our relationship or that he may be asking these questions just out of curiousity. He claims that he wants to know what kind of a relationship patterns I have, which may be valid, but I feel that if we keep looking to the past, we will be unable to move forward. Also, it is a little uncomfortable sometimes.
2006-08-07 03:04:28 · 17 answers · asked by mightymouse9791 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really isn't a good idea to go into detail with him. It can cause problems in the future. That is all in the past and you guys should be focusing on your relationship. Not on your past or his past.
2006-08-07 03:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's a very bad idea. It's your past, and somethings are better left there. The next time he wants to talk about your past relationships tell him you would rather talk about your future. Your ex's have nothing to do with what's going on now. Tell him you don't want to talk about it because it makes you uncomfortable and it has nothing to do with him. And if he can't understand that then it's time to move on to someone else that's not going to analyse you and judge your life based on the past.
2006-08-07 03:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest straying away from this as much as possible. My gf and I discuss our past relationships at times, but mostly to explain certain personality traits. You do need to leave the past behind you and start working towards your future.
2006-08-07 03:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by FH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well change the subject when he brings it up. Or just tell him you are not interested in relieving the past, you interest in the present and in the future, that is why you are with him. Tell him you want create new patterns with him.
2006-08-07 03:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every relationship should be on a need to know basis. he doesn't need to know about your past relationships unless it bears any significance on this one!
he wants to know what kind of relationship patterns you have? WTF??? why doesn't he experience it first hand by letting YOUR relationship run it's course? he sounds a little obsessive about this and if i were you, i would be worried!
tell him you are uncomfortable with it and if he still persists, i think he may be the wrong guy for you!
2006-08-07 03:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a bad idea...he doesn't need to know all of that stuff...live in the relationship you have now making new memories not just talking about memories you already have with other guys
2006-08-07 03:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good thing , I had a boyfriend like that & when we would argue he would always bring up one of the things we discusted in a harsh jelouse way ( got rid of that one )
2006-08-07 03:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥tk♦star♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO never talk about your ex with your bf and i think he just try to get you on some point and later he going to bring it in your face
2006-08-07 03:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are dogs, dont tell him everything, some point of life after marriage, he will be attracted to someone else, that time he will say " have u forgoten ur past, u too did it, so wat bad if i too do it, ""neve let him know. a womens heart is as deep as an ocean. burry it there forget it never accept it
2006-08-07 03:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by jp shahani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea.The past will only overshadow the present.
2006-08-07 03:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋