my mom made me break up with my boyfriend what should i do?

Question

my mom made me breakup with him after almost a year of dating B/C she found out his dad is a crossdresser so she doesnt want my bf around me we both love eachother and still want to be with eachother but he wont go back out with me because of my MOTHER what should i do we have had are ups and downs but thats what made are relationship stronger i love him more than anything in the world please help i want HIM and he wants me . my mom thinks that i am over him and she thinks i can do better than him but i want him and that is my decison im 18 and he is 20 im despreate PLEASE HELP................................ASAP

Answer 1

You are 18? Then you are an adult and you can make your own decisions. I understand that most parents feel that if you are living under their roof you need to abide by their rules, but if this is truly the only reason your mother doesn't want you to date him she should reassess the situation.

Your boyfriend didn't influence his father to be a crossdresser, your mother should be adult enough to realize this and give him a chance based on only HIS personality and how he treats you.

Answer 2

First step. Grieve and cry and get angry about your loss. Life sucks sometimes and this is one of those times.
Second step. Think about the chances that your absent boy friend is pretty badly "bent". Are you certain your Mom's judgement is totally without any merit whatsoever? You say you had "ups and downs". Let me tell you about ups and downs. They NEVER, EVER get better. In fact, they ALWAYS get worse. So if the downs weren't too good and you stay with your guy, they are going to get much, much worse.
Third step. Thank your lucky stars you have a mother who cares about you and your welfare.
Sorry that's not what you want to hear but there is a lot of experience behind my answer.

Answer 3

Dear Desperate,

It sounds to me that your problem is that you want to please your Mother and still have your beloved boyfriend. I would suggest you go to a 3rd party - like a priest, minister or guidance counsellor to help you Mother understand that Cross-dressing is not genetic and that your boyfriend is aware of how different his Father is, compare to NORMAL. - And that he knows he is different from his Father but still loves him all the same.

At the same time, make sure you do not want this boyfriend more because your Mother doesn't want you together - this can also be a part of the group dynamic.

Good Luck

Answer 4

First of all, you are not desperate, get that idea out of your head.

What does it matter what your mother thinks? You are a better judge than anyone else, although i do feel you are very young.

It may be a good idea to move out of home and in with the man of your dreams, see how that goes, certainly you dont want to let other people tell you what to do.

Answer 5

Well, you are 18 so you are of age and can make your own decisions about what you do or don't do. But then you have to live with those decisions, too, and it may come to deciding whether you want your mom or your boyfriend. Weigh the pros and cons, talk it over with your mom and tell her your decision and see what happens. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like your mum is being unreasonable. I'm not saying cross dressing is normal but if he wants to do it in his own home then who cares. If you are 18 then your mum can't do anything about it. Tell her she can be with you or against you but you will do what you want either way.

Answer 7

Do you really love him enough to go against your mom's wishes or its just that u want to be rebelous.

Your mom should have a reason..

Answer 8

1st I would talk to your mother tell her how you feel she is older and most people who are older are wiser we some times have to learn that the hard way but it is your choice you are 18 after all

Answer 9

Probably you may consider moving away from your mother, so that she cannot tell you what to do.

Answer 10

listen to your mom