2006-08-07 02:54:28 · 26 answers · asked by frogface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the 1st time was about a year ago with another boy(my son 5, other boy 3) the 2nd was just a few weeks ago with a female cousin(son 6, girl 3). the girl asked him to lay on her with their pants down. we talked about it and what that means. he promises to never do it again but he made that promise the 1st time. do you think there may be something wrong? do i need to talk to a counselor?
2006-08-07 03:19:57 · update #1
It's pretty much natural curiosity but should be held in check. If these are siblings, be more worried if they're boy/girl - there's a possiblity of future abuse. If same sex, not as much of a problem, but in either case, sitting down with them and answering (honestly) any questions they have will stem the curiosity. After all, once it's not a "secret" anymore, it's not as enticing.
2006-08-07 03:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by dragonwing 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it is true that the 3 year old asked him to do this, then she either saw someone doing this before or someone did this to her. If your son really was the instigator (he might have lied so he wasn't embarrassed or more in trouble), then the same goes for him. It is normal to look and ask questions, but simulating a sex act highly suggests a problem. Don't freak out, don't make anyone feel guilty, just talk with a professional for advice.
2006-08-14 10:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by sgeorges13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as children are different in all other ways, some children are more "sexual" than others and get stimulated by sexual play. It sounds to me as if your child's play should be carefully supervised because this sort of play can wind up very troubling for young children.
The parents of his friends might not be too happy about this sort of play either.
There are so many wonderful activities that he can do with friends- like craft projects or even cooking.
Best wishes from a grandma-aged person
2006-08-14 12:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids try to act like they are parents when they are playing. Apparently these kids are subjected to alittle bit more knowledge than the average little kids when it comes to what mommy and daddy do behind closed doors.
Kids will be kids and explore things. I wouldn't worry about it, and I wouldn't make your son feel dirty over it, or you could cause issue's for him down the line.
Just tell him that is inappropriate behaviour for a child his age and not to do it.
Don't say looking at the human body is dirty.. otherwise they can remember that forever.
2006-08-15 01:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by Night Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time sounds like they were just comparing parts. I would suggest you talk to the little girls mother about the second time. I hate to say it but there might be problems that her parents are unaware of because if she asked him to lay on her with their pants off she might know some things she ought not know.
2006-08-15 02:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be a natural curiousity there... but I wonder where a three year old girl got the idea to ask a boy to lie on top of her... that concerns me... I hope it's nothing more than being exposed to television shows she should not have seen.
2006-08-15 02:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity
2006-08-13 17:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on their age. human beings have a developmental pattern that we all follow, although not always in the same rate as others. it is during the Phallic Phase (according to the Psychosexual Theory of Freud), age 3-6, when children are most concerned about their sexuality. it is the time that they get curious about their genitals and the genitals of other people. dont worry because this is just a normal phase that human beings have to pass. all you have to do is to not shame your kid infront of other people. you just gently tell your kid and explain in simple terms that this thing is not good to do. in the end as long as you consistently do this, this will end. after all, its just a phase.
2006-08-07 03:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity most likely but don't let it continue. It is pretty normal if they are between the ages of 3-8, any older and that's getting kinda weird. Tell them NOT to do it and talk to their friends parents if necessary. Just talk to your kids and tell them why it's wrong and the importance of privacy etc, etc.
2006-08-07 03:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm probably going to sound like Dr. Phil but, It just a stage of them maturing. And if it happens more times, you should talk and explain to them about it . And, then listen to what they have to say. And, if it helps therapy is also there. But, it's only my opinion about this... I hope that I help you in someway.
2006-08-14 11:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋