ok i havent seen my brother and his girls friend in 5 year or talk to them and they have five kid that i never knew about and im his girls friend favorit and my brother is going off to the army and she wants me to move up to omaha with her but i have my boyfriend my band and school what should i do sould i stay or go my my other brother lives in omaha with his wifee and she said she might talk to them and im 17 years old
2006-08-07 02:46:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i live with my boy friend by the way
2006-08-07 02:51:16 · update #1
and i live in californa
2006-08-07 02:52:24 · update #2
and now they just tell me she is pregnat agine
2006-08-07 03:01:49 · update #3
no if u have a good life where u live now then no cause u would have to transfer schools and get a new bf cause long distance wont work and u would have to quit ur band do u want that i dont think so just tell her u would try to visit when u have time and u r not busy
2006-08-07 02:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your own life is pretty full. Let them know you already have a life you enjoy and don't really want to uproot at this point. I agree with some of the other comments, it sounds like they are wanting help with the children. If they knew he was going away, they should have planned better. That is a lot for one person, but it is too much for you to take on at 17. It seems strange that they would want you to come live with them now, when it seems like you finally got your own life in order. There has to be a reason why you are living with your boyfriend, where were they before? I say, see if your other brother can help them out, since they already live in Omaha and finish school.
2006-08-07 10:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have a plan for your life even though you are only 17. I know it can be very difficult raising kids on your own, but I don't believe it's right for your brother's g/f to expect you to move in with her and help her out, especially since the two of you are nearly strangers. That's asking a lot.
It wouldn't be a bad idea to get some conversation going and get to know your nieces and nephews or if you can spare some time to watch the kids once in awhile so their mother can have a break and the kids can know they have an aunt who is more than just a name and photograph.
2006-08-07 10:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by rakuchild_shines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish school and live your dreams !!!! No one said that you had to go stay by your brothers girlfriend evidently shes looking for a babysitter or someone else to help her take up the slack of raising five kids!!!! Her job is cut out for her and there is no reason that you shouldn't visit but i wouldn't actually move in if I were you !!!!! You have your own life ,enjoy it while you can!!! Best wishes
2006-08-07 09:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to stay home and finish living ur life.. they probably want u up there to help out w/their 5 kids.. why all of a sudden they want u to come up there.. what happened during the 5 yrs that they didn't reach out to u..
u have ur whole life ahead of u don't get mixed up w/them.. just keep in touch by calling or writing or even visiting.. but ur still young and u should enjoy ur life.. u might not even like it in Omaha..
2006-08-07 09:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay where you are and concentrate on school. After graduation you could consider moving up there if you want, but watch out because she might be looking for a babysitter more than wanting you to be there for company. You are too young to watch 5 kids. You should be where you are more comfortable and I doubt 5 kids is going to make you comfortable.
2006-08-07 09:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a lot to ask of a 17 year old. Are they asking because they care about you and want you to be closer, or do they just want a babysitter? I think you should give it a lot of thought before you make up your mind. If you were my daughter, I wouldn't allow you to move to another town, and have to start at another school when you are probably almost ready to graduate. If they care about you they will understand and accept your decision. good luck
2006-08-07 10:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Gloria M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve got to live ur life... I know that's your brother and all, but if you don't wanna pickup and leave ur life behind u dont have to. Hsi wife is a big girl, she can take care of herself and her kids. I know u love him and their children, but a least finish HS and then think about if u wanna go to college in Omaha. To me it just sounds like ur gonna be a live in babysitter...trust me its happened to me.
2006-08-07 09:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels best to you.. which do you prefer or feel better about? Since you're young, it might be safer to finish your school, and stay where you are at the moment, rather than make any big moves for now.. plenty of time later..
2006-08-07 09:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you finish school first before making a big move like that. Plus your parents might not agree to your going. You'd better talk to your parents and the rest of the family about it.
2006-08-07 09:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋