What does my Ex-GF want?? I'm confused?

Question

Ok, well my GF broke up with me as i explained here

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhmE41C9gYT9nn4F2kR78dPsy6IX?qid=20060805170541AA7Ehzd

but we still talk on the phone everyday, she says she needs to talk to me before she goes to bed, she still tells me that she really really likes me alot still. we went out yesterday and everything seemed back to normal except for the fact we didnt kiss. i didnt kiss her cause i wasnt sure if she wanted me to, but i still had my arm around her and on her @ss and stuff. she said she didnt mind. so later at night we're talking on the phone and i told her im confused, and what exactly is going on between us. she said "I guess we're still not together" which was weird cause we did all the things we used to, we went for a walk in the park and then i took her out to dinner. today she's leaving for europe for 3 weeks and said she would think about things there. what does she really want? im sooo confused, and i think she is too...

id like to add a few more things.....

she still talks about losing her virginity to me and other sexual stuff. its really weird cause she said that she "hopes" she decides to go out with me again. i really dont understand what that means. if she really likes me and "hopes" she decides to go back out with me and wants to lose her virginity to me. why doesnt she wanna be with me? she said it has NOTHING to do with me and that its all her.

can someone please help? anyone else been in a situation like this? thanx guys

Answer 1

ALLRIGHT, I think I get it.. Your girlfriend has found a comfort zone with you.. she doesn't want to be alone, yet, she doesn't want to commit.

here are your options:

1. if you want to get back with her, play hard to get. Do not be so available, do not be pretty much like a girlfriend to her(remember, still no kissing) In 90% of the cases this works and if she cares for you she will want to get back with you for sure. If not, she didn't want you anyway and you would be wasting your time...

2. If you don't care to get back with her, stay away cause she would only be wasting your time when you could be looking for or finding yourself with an awesome individual that would blow you away and could really change your life.

You can trust me on this...

Answer 2

I would know how it feels to be treated that way as i am 2 confused about something similiar like that i broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago now and i still call him up before going to bed for the reason that i still like hearing his voice and spending time w/him his a nice guy and the most coolest person, we still do the same things we did before.But i don't like him anymore than a friend its very strange about how i feel every thing we do its ok even kissing! so i believe u 2 are confused and just need some time to get over stuff or just see a relationship on the future , but as u can c ure not alone on this. good luck! Sorry im not very much help but u i can relate to ure situation.

Answer 3

sounds like she dont know what she wants yet, thats why she cant answer you. She does like you but doesnt want to start up again without knowing for sure.

Answer 4

ok, so she obviously want u to ask her out again. the thing now is... do u want to go out with her again? something got between u to before that was enough to drive u apart... and it seems to me that that obviously doesn't affect u two now.
wat i'm trying to say is that she wants to see if u want her back just as much as she obviously wants u back.

i feel bad for u, hun. this must suck for u.

Answer 5

i tink she still loves u,but there is a reason dat she can't tell u,dats y she just want u to believe dat ur over,but she can't control herself to love u...She must have a gud reason,and i tink she's on tough tym rite now to make a decision..try to see tings n balance tings..out!!!