I have a friend, well let's say someone, with benefits. Usually it's just about sex, and usually it's good. BUT the last time......
The only thing touching me was his "stuff", no hands, no lips, just "stuff". Of course it (the situation) wasn't doing anything for me so i started staring at the wall, cleaning my nails, etc. so he could notice. I told him to get me "excited" 4 times, he didn't. So, i pushed him off and said exactly "Get up. You're not doing nothing for me". As i was going to the bathroom, he asked me was i serious & I told him "Yeah i'm serious. Punk". I was joking about the punk part but i was serious. I didn't mean to be hurtful or anything but it was hurting me because i wasn't "excited" enough.
What's your opinion?
2006-08-07 02:31:01 · 26 answers · asked by jaye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it goes both ways. Maybe if you had participated a bit more you may have found the situation more exciting.
2006-08-07 02:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's me I'm just using my other id to respond to some answers.
1. He's 28
2. He's on top but i did most of the work to the point where he
could stop moving and still feel a grind. Not to mention
the "sasuage sandwich" i let him have before that.
3. We still chilled for the rest of the night but little was said
4. Speaking of little, NO HE IS NOT! :)
5. I spoke to him once since last week and i asked if he was
upset, he said "I don't get mad", but yet he ignored my calls
after the situation. (Last Week)
6. I notice a missed call from him last night, but i don't know what
to say if i call him back. Hell he already know's i feel bad about
hurting his feelings.
7. I got my needs too!!!!
2006-08-07 02:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Athena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong to be all rude , but he shoudl have been more considerate and not just wanted to get himself off. He shoudl have been a little more thoughtful- even if you two are just booty calls.you shoudl have said, "Look, this isn't gonna happen for anybody if you don't get me wet first." Id he kept on, "I told you I am not wet yet, so if you don't want to have sex, then fine." An dthen left. The "punk" part id kinda funny though!! Hahah! I bet he is more "loving" next itme!! (if there is sa next imte! Call him and say sorry fo rgetting all pissed the other nbight but he was being a jerk and not paying attention to your bodys needs.
2006-08-07 02:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did precisely the right thing. What you thought you had was a relationship (of sorts) and you were not feeling a part of anything - hence your refusal to continue. What will you do next? - is the real question. The next step will be determined by you and the rest of the relationship will be set by that standard - IT IS COMPLETELY UP TO YOU. Good luck and remember you are worth more than to just settle for 2nd best.
2006-08-07 02:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by G1ggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i can tell your beneficial friend does not like the foreplay
foreplay is a necessity. the touch from the fingers, the rubbing of the hands gently over the breasts, the action from the tongue as it does circles around the nipples and makes it down over the stomach and then reaches the beginning of a really adventure. if there is any guy that does not like the arousal of there female partner and getting her worked up and dripping wet then they might as well just go pay for it.
2006-08-07 02:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just stating the truth. Is he your sex partner? And there is no strings attached? It seems like he is almost over you and he has lost his interest in getting intimate with you. The fact that he doesn't even do the foreplay and teasing but just zoom straight into target, clearly show that he is doing it for the sake of doing. Its more like a transaction than anything. If you are in a relationship with him, I think its over. If he is just a sex partner, I think its time you change a new one else don't expect much.
2006-08-07 02:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what it is...if a guy finds someone comfortable with being a friend with benefits, then that's what its going to be...a guy doesn't look for someone to get emotionally attached to if the only connection is about being physical...sure there is going to be some passion and foreplay but eventually it can lead to getting naked and doing the deed and thanks see ya later...your at the point...doesn't mean it will always be like that but don't expect things to develop into anything emotionally connected.
2006-08-07 02:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male egos are fragile so you have to be gentle with them. anyways, I think if you were not enjoy it, telling him to get up is justifiable. I am sure he probably just a little mad cause you hurt his feelings. In a week he probably will come back for some more. If he doesn't I am sure there are a lot of guys waiting to take his place. Don't feel guilty, you deserve to be pleasured. His action was selfish.
2006-08-07 02:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I do not believe in "friends with benefits". Maybe if you were in a serious relationship the sex would be more intimate and therefore be better.
You can do what ever you want with your life...
Honestly though you probably did hurt his ego...
2006-08-07 02:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have spent some time touching him and turning him on rather than demanding he do it to you. If you get the ball rolling he would have returned the favor. Telling him "Get up. You're not doing nothing for me" was probably hurtful to him and certainly doesn't inspire him to be more romantic.
2006-08-07 02:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋