Is it better to have kids when you are young (early 20s) or older (30s, 40s)?

Answer 1

Young you can keep up with them and maybe even the grandchildren :)

Answer 2

I had mine in my teens and early 20s (1st child I was 17, second child ws born when I was 19, then 20, then 21). I know I was young, but at least I have the energy to keep up with everything they do and believe me they are busy little kids. I also will only be in my mid to late thirties when my oldest graduates high school and then in my early 40s when the others graduate. I still have the energy to play with them and the patience to handle them. I think this way they wont miss out on a childhood and I certainly wont be missing out on anything. I couldnt imagine having a kid in my 40s or even mid to late 30s because I would be afraid i would die before the child graduated or that my child would be made fun of for having a mom so old.

Answer 3

It's a controversial issue. I've discovered through research that it is healthier to have a baby when you are in your 20's. This is when the woman's body is ready to carry a child. At this stage the baby has a least likely change of getting any kind of illness depending on your healthyness. As you age the more likely it is to have a birth defect. But, when you are older, like in your 30's or 40's you then may be more responsible, less bills, paid off house and are able to give all you can. But that is the issue then you can't play as much with them as you get old. It's a controversial issue. It's really your call. I gave you some benefits of both.

Answer 4

If you want to have kids, then you are going to be centered around them. You should have them mid 20's because then you arent too young, and you arent too old. When they grow up you will still be relatively young enough to concentrate on retirement or traveling or whatever. If you want to have them later in your life but still enjoy free time around 40 or 50. Consider adopting a child that is older than a toddler. There are lots of good children in the system that need a place to call home. Even if they are already 15 or 16.

Answer 5

I had my first child in my early 20's, my second in my late 20's, and my third in my 30's. I'm glad I started early, but I wish I hadn't waited so long in between pregnancies. I think if you are ready, you should have kids early so you can still be young enough to be able to travel and such when the kids are grown and on their own. I'd also like to have enough energy and patience when my grandchildren come. I think mid twenties is the ideal time to start. good luck

Answer 6

I had mine (planned) at 21 and 24. I think that was a great age because I could stay up all night or chase my toddlers around and not be as exhausted as some of my older friends seemed. Also, once you are past 35 there are more risks for the baby.

But, at 21 some ppl aren't done "partying" and such so they need to wait till it is out of their system.

Usually the older you are the more financially stable you are. I would defiantly finish college before you have a baby (I did!)

Really it is whenever YOU and your spouse are ready but I would think before 35 just for the health reasons.

Answer 7

I had my kids at 23, 28 and 29. In your 20's, you have more energy, but less money. In your 30's you are getting started in your career and have less time but a little more money. In your 40's you have more money, less energy. My brother in law and sister in law adopted 2 kids in their mid 40's. They are now in their mid 50's with 2 kids who are 11 and 8. Personally, I'm glad I had my kids when I was younger. I have 2 grandchildren that I am still young enough to enjoy. My brother and sister in law won't be grandparents til their 80's or beyond.

Answer 8

Better by whose standards? It is an individual decision and "better" is what is better for each individual. Personally, I think late 20's to mid-30's is good because you have probably gotten through school, started a career and have the maturity to care for a child and be somewhat stable. But that's just my opinion and I'm sure there are a great many younger and older parents out there doing a fine job.

Answer 9

I would say mid 20's if you have them in your older yrs than you have to think about how old you will be when your child wants to learn sports etc think of it this way if you are 40 and you have your child then when your child is 20 you will be 60 not that its a bad age but what can you do with your child at that age?

Answer 10

In your 30's.

Answer 11

Financially, it's best to have your kids when you're young. People tend to give their kids the best things they can afford, which isn't much when you're young, so you spend less money on "stuff". After they leave home you have many years left to build up your nest egg, rather than spending your money on college etc. when you're in your late 50s. However, emotionally it may be best to wait. Raising children is incredibly stressful on your relationship with your spouse, so having a number of good child-free years can cement your relationship better, to weather the coming storms of child-raising.

I had 1 child at 18 and 1 child at 27. Both are the loves of my life, but the stress of childraising at 18 split my marriage apart when I was 30. I was ready for children, but my husband wasn't.