I have also fancied him (even before we knew each other), we finally met in february and started goin out with eachother 3 mnths ago. I always knew he was a "bad boy" and have known that he smokes weed since i met him, but not long ago i found that he has taken various pills (excessive amounts), has tried ectasy and has tried cocaine on about 3 occasions. Bout a wk ago when he was pissed he sed he would stop smokin weed and that i shouldnt worry cuz ectasy was a 1 off and he doesnt need 2 have cocaine again, but he has smoked weed since then (which i'm not bothered about, but it makes me think that he might take cocaine again) and then could get addicted, and i also know that he'd maybe take other drugs if his mates had them!! I wana tell him that it's either me or da drugs but im worried that that will make him dislike me 4 takin his option of drugs away, plus he'd probably just do them behind my back anyway!!! what do u think i should do????
2006-08-07 02:06:40 · 38 answers · asked by DanniG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think i could finish him because i love him loads and ive never loved anyone as much as i love him
2006-08-07 04:50:46 · update #1
readin my question back i gave the idea 2 every1 that my bf is heartless, but the thing that makes this even harder is that he is completely the opposite and is actually a very shy and sweet lad..............
2006-08-08 12:40:48 · update #2
You need to just stay away from him-he's bad news. Prob won't ever change-what a life!
2006-08-07 02:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by MalteseLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from anyone that takes any drug that ends on INE - cocaine, heroine, caffeine, nicotine.... heh, the last two are extremes; but they do nothing for your body besides give you addicted and make you a howling mad man when you dont' have them in your body.
Weed, E and LSD, Shrooms, etc do not affect your body like the mass media and extremist fundamentalist people of the world say they do. You are who you are, and they just help you be who you are even easier than before.
So, the problem is that most people are lazy and bumish, and rather just hang out and be stupid - mostly because intelligence and progress hurt - and yes, the drugs will only make you a further bum if that's who you are.
If you're a progressive person, intelligent, etc; the drugs won't change that unlike they say.
In the end, I'd probably leave the guy you're talking about. He has done Coc, and honestly - that is one of the drugs that grabs you by the balls so hard that it's extremely difficult to let go, almost impossible. 10 years from now he will still have cravings even if he never takes it again. No ultimatums, just leave him because you're better than that right?
Taking pills is stupid and dangerous, it's a stupid kids' way to try and get a high and they don't have anything else. He may call it experimenting, but any person in their 40s that has been doing drugs since the early days can tell him the same thing: it's stupid and only a degenerate would try that. It's like huffing glue, stupid and disgusting and only bums do it.
2006-08-07 02:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Solrium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question!! You know it's a them or us situation and quite frankly I wouldn't date a man on drugs.
I did for 8yrs hoping that he'd change and give them up, even had kids with him. The only thing he's changed in that time is his job!! Roughly 4 a year due to his attitude and habits!!
I know the attraction of the bad boy thing but have since wisened up! There are a lot of great guys out there; yeah I've been single for almost 2yrs now, dated a few haven't got past 2 months as I've now got standards on how a guy should treat me and if he's not up to scratch or there's no chemistry between us I cut them loose and move on. There's no such thing as Mr. Right, there's Mr. Rightnow-as I don't like being alone or you can wait it out and find real love.
Read "He's just not that into you" and/or "In the Meantime" books that will liberate you into the love and relationship that you deserve.
God bless you in your search for love...x
2006-08-07 02:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just dont know whats your financial status nor your BF's. I personally think he is already very much addicted and almost impossible for him to come out from this. Tell him that you love him and will like to spend the rest of your life with him BUT only if he quits the drugs. They are terrible.
If he doesnt do that and continue taking drugs, weeds etc THEN I would suggest you take a different route.
Write to me at my email aarveesy@yahoo.com
Maybe I can talk to you in detail.
2006-08-14 20:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by itsme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the things you love about him, what made you want him in the first place and everything that makes you stick with him, because believe me, you will find all these qualities in a million other guys in the world who don't have the bad side that this one does. Get rid of him NOW. Not only is he a druggie but he is a liar who will keep promising you that he won't do the drugs again but won't ever be able to stick to it. You will get yourself into a horrible emotional mess and you'll be forever competing with the drugs as he becomes more and more reliant on them. Have some respect for yourself. Get this loser out of your life or you'll never know what true love is.
2006-08-07 03:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Hotpink555 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FROM A DRUG TAKER
i have had and am still having the same problem with my partner in that she wants me to quit.
i dont think you should deliver him an ultimatum because who knows how he may react. if he chooses the drugs you will no longer be able to help him with his problem or be with him which are both bad outcomes.
drugs legal or illegal do lots of damage on society but they are addicitive and no one should ever put anyone down who takes them when they have not experienced the grip addicition can have on a person.
in my experience the best way to stop a person from feelin the need to take drugs is to give them something else to do. if his mates are encouraging or allowing him to do these things then choose new activities or hobbies that will allow him to meet new friends.
dont stress too much though by the sounds of things he is not a "junkie" or someone who is like out stealing and **** to support their habbit.
if you have any more dramas feel free to contact me for extra advice
2006-08-14 19:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by brentmcassidy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one..What I would personally do is talk to him first thing in a morning before he's had chance to take anything and tell him how he's making you feel if that doesn't work try talking to his family see if they can talk some sense into him.. My sister was in a relationship like this but instead of it being drugs it was drink he was addicted to she finally left him because she had had enough.. I hope everything works out well for you good luck
2006-08-07 02:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live where they have AA then look up there phone #
& ask them for some advice, the people there have been through this & will give you the best advice
your b-friend on the other hand won't stop any of those things unless he wants to, why not remind him that all the
stuff he's doing will only end up killing him in the end & that you don't want to have to live w/ out him.
2006-08-07 02:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drugs are in simple terms so cool, are not they? no longer. Your bf is an fool and you should get a techniques faraway from him, i do no longer care how a lot you think of you "love" him. heavily, is this the form of guy you choose to spend your life with, have toddlers with? i'd desire no longer. complicated human beings make for sophisticated lives. circulate concentration on your education so which you will circulate to college get an exciting profession and meet somebody who respects you (and continues to be sober and drug loose).
2016-09-29 00:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by mauzon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that as long as he puts YOU first and only smokes weed, then you are okay. Tell him that he can be honest with you about everything and you will not get mad. Stick to that and let him be honest with you without you screaming and stuff. Then he will be less likely to do stuff behind your back. Tell him you are fine with the weed, but that out of respect for your wishes, you would appreciate it if he didn't do anything else. Tell him that you are trynig to co-operate with him adn that now it is his turn to do HIS part and be honest with you and not do anything harder than smoke. See how that goes.
2006-08-07 02:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to step back and re-evaluate this relationship. An addictive can't really be honest with you because they aren't being honest with themselves.. they are using artificial means to cope with life... take it from someone who has experienced this... leave him... one day if he wakes and realizes he has a problem and gets help then perhaps you might have a chance of building a relationship with him.. but understand that entails that you will always have to deal with the possibility that he could return.. he can change but only if he is willing to admit he has a problem and seek help. Good luck!!
2006-08-07 02:16:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋