I am a very emotional person,always running in life to keep others happy n impressed. but seldom do i live for myself. i m very much dependent on my husband, & it sometimes creates trifes between us. i don like this dependency. how do i be warm with others at the same time, think abt myself first, remain happy, also not let others tht i m detached. i hope u understand wht i wrote!
2006-08-07 01:21:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Live in the garage.
2006-08-07 01:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
another good book is The Dance of Anger
do you think that you are emotional because you feel emotional, or is it because your husband frequently tells you that you are too emotional. If you can't remember the last time that you shed a tear, you are probably not too emotional. You could try an experiment - buy a small pocket MP3 tape recorder like an iRiver and tape yourself in conversation. Play it back to yourself privately - do you sound emotional?
You could travel more, take up a hobby that gets you out of the house often (not shopping - something social like bowling or cards).
Take care of yourself. You have experience taking care of others. You are the person who needs your help now. Ask for help from your family and friends.
Make a list of the things that make you happy.
2006-08-07 01:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Molly R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't already have a job, get one. Then you won't always be dependent on your husband. Find things that interest you, and do things with friends. Become more independent, such as, getting your own bank account, etc. If you are not able to work, try a new hobby that at least gets you out of the house. Don't make yourself "available" to your husband 24/7, let him know you also have a life.
2006-08-07 01:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be detached from your husband and at the same time you dont want others to know that. Well, it is a tricky question. First of all, you may apply your mind before asking your husband for anything and everything. When he is not around, please take your own decisions and convey that to him later. Learn to justify your decisions. Slowly you can release yourself from depending on him for everything. But, decisions that matters should not be taken single handedly as these are to be discussed thoroughly as some of these may have financial implications etc. Think about the house, children, your parents his parents etc. All these should be discussed before finalisation.
You have to start living for yourself being happy and satisfied. At the same time you can look after others also. But do not try to interfere in everything that happens.
2006-08-07 01:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by JP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to become detached from your husband to be happy with yourself. You do however need to find some things that just interest you and pursue them. Take a class, go for walks, join a gym, make new friends, etc...
This will start building your sense of self worth and start you to being able to see that you really are your own person
2006-08-07 01:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh,you are living my life,or should I say the life I used to live,I always put everyone before me and before I knew it there was no time for me,I ended up being everyones crutch but when I need a crutch I only had myself to lean on.I changed all of this about 3 weeks ago,my life took a complete turn,did I piss some people off,ya a little,they had to start living for themselves instead of me doing it for them,but they still love me and I came to realize that really I wasnt doing them any favors at all.I moved away and am now living life for myself,of course if it is an absolute that they need me,then yes I will be there but otherwise it is now my turn to live my life and I strongly suggest you do the same,no one is going to do it for you and depending on how important you are and what you think you deserve than with life as short as it is,make it your time now and start today
2006-08-07 01:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could walk, undergo in techniques human beings do to us what we enable and you allowed him to disrespect you. reason being you knew this grew to become into occurring. I do understand which you have the desire to make your Marriage artwork, regardless of if it is obtrusive that he do not and you probably did not marry your self.. pay attention up Sweety you nevertheless have time to make issues ensue for your self and precise now you're all that concerns. You end making your self obtainable for him or anybody else and make your self obtainable for YOU!!! This have been occurring for the previous 6years do you desire to bypass yet another 5,10,15 years dealing with this BS? you have tried counseling on your Marriage now attempt it for your self, believe me once you have had sufficient you will understand and you will in basic terms bypass and save it moving. Do the failings that make you happy and comply with adhere with those issues for you and whomever you could become in contact with sooner or later could desire to have your pastime at heart besides. Take care and stay concentrated and conscious, Many advantages to You!!!!
2016-11-04 01:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your sun sign cancer or taurus?
Never become so dependent on your husband, one minute he can be here and the next second taken out into eternity or another woman.
I do understand what your feeling..
2006-08-07 01:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by hauntedheart25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading the book "Codependency No More".
It is the best on the topic.
Therapy helps too.
2006-08-07 01:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into a 12 step alanon program...
2006-08-07 01:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋